Dating Guide For Your INTJ Part 1

Intuitives Can Handle Details, We Just Need a Vision First

I have read and researched a bit about MBTI and dabble in the theory as a hobby. I am definitely not an expert in the field. It peaks my interest, so I learn a little here and there at my own pace.

One thing I have learned is that those with the “N” or intuitive trait, are less common than the “S” or sensing trait. As a result the world’s systems and structures are more geared towards sensors, so intuitives can struggle to fit into their surrounding world.

I often struggle to fit into my surrounding environment. I have simply learned to “play along” to survive. It makes life easier, but at the same time I feel so fake or alienated from what I consider “reality.”

College is a perfect example. I love to learn. I am a student at heart, and always love discovering a new piece of information. However, I really hate the traditional ways of how college trys to teach. It seems to stifle my thought process by requiring stupid standards such as memorization and timed tests.

Really? This is what “learning” boils down to? Tests and memorizing don’t capture the essence of knowing something, only regurgitating facts for the sake of a grade.

As an engineering student, I believe everything I have to learn is taught in a backwards fashion. We learn principles of math, physics, and etc..but the grand purpose or “big picture” isn’t made very clear. At least from the beginning. We are given a path of classes to take, but taught to take it as is and not question the why or how these classes work together.

The further I get in my studies, the more I realize how it all works together. For example; calculus really didn’t make sense to me until I took courses in physics that actually explain how calculus works in an applicable manner. Before that, it was too abstract and unconnected to the world around me. I managed to get through it, but to me it was just shuffling numbers and equations around to acheive the right answer for a grade, nothing more. I often thought, if physics were explained first and it’s applications, calculus would have been so much easier to understand.

This continues with the higher level physics courses I had to take that were heavy in theory, but null in relation to applicable uses. When I started taking courses in upper level civil (my emphasis), only then did I really start to understand what I should have supposedly known by taking the general theory courses such as thermodynamics, fluid mechanics, dynamics, and etc..

I would have greater understanding by taking the courses that only require minimal knowledge of a heavy theory course, then work deeper into those theories once the “big picture” is put in place. I could have received a better grade, but no, learn meaningless details first, then we will teach you simpler ways to apply it. This is such B.S. and completely backwards to my thought process!

Thus said, I often bitch and complain my way through college because the method currently implored is ass backwards to actual “learning.”

Perhaps sensors feel differently, IDK, it is frustrating as hell for me! I need to see the end result and fruitation of a concept first, then start to understand the details necessary to achieve that end result. If I have to muddle through meaningless details first without understanding their significance in the first place, I struggle. I tend to think in metaphorical terms anyway, so a small task before me must play a part into the whole machine at work. If I cannot connect a small task to the machine as a whole, I do not see the point and cannot make sense of it. I actually can be very good at details and relish them, but I must simply understand why those details are necessary in the first place and give them proper direction. If no vision is present, I have no guidance into what the details should look like. There is no point in making detailed “messes.” I am only interested in making detailed masterpieces. /p>

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Two major types of INTJ

One of the most interesting things I read in relation to personality theory was Cognitive Styles. It is completely separate personality profiling system, but it can be used in conjunction with MBTI. And when you combine the two, you find out that there are two major types of INTJs

The ones that don’t wear a ‘social mask’ (perceiver INTJs)

The ones that do wear a social mask (contributor INTJs)

There are other variations, but these are the most common. Out of the two, the perceiver INTJ’s are the most common. Contributor INTJ’s (I am one of these) often feel out-of-step within the community, because they are always wearing some form of public mask, and always playing the social game, whereas their INTJ perceiver peers denounce such things.

Perceiver INTJs

Hate social games, and usual rebel when possible and do their best to not comply.

They don’t respect authority at all unless its proven itself, and even then, they are forever skeptical.

They have a strong moral compass, and they follow it. They have a very, very strong sense of justice. Pretending to be someone else, i.e. wearing the “social mask” feels dirty, because it is deceptive and not who they really are.

While most like things, they are less concerned with material matters.

They do not care what society thinks of them.

Contributor INTJs

Contributor INTJ’s do care about what society thinks of them. They wear lots of social masks, and they usually wear them well. They play the social game, and they usually do this without being bitter about it (even if it makes them tired).

They key to understand why they do this, is that they are inherently pragmatic. Socializing is often not natural for them but they learn the skills because it pragmatically assists them in achieving their abstract goals. They don’t have an inherent drive to be liked for the sake of being liked, but they want to achieve their goals.

They care more about possessions because things help them get other things; contributor INTJ’s do well in sales and business.

Respect authority more because they take-on social roles when it is necessary.

Because they are incredibly goal-based, their morals tend to be weaker. They are more likely to blur the lines. They will do things to get ahead. Unlike the perceiver INTJ who doesn’t like to lie about who they are (even if it means achieving their goals will be harder), the contributor will “wear the mask”.

  Which type are you?

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12 TYPE SECRETS OF THE INTJ PERSONALITY

1. They’re smart. Really smart.

INTJs tend to be life-long learners who are enthusiastic collectors of knowledge. You may find them reading non-fiction books, watching documentaries or conversing with those who they see as their intellectual equals. In fact, the INTJ is one of two types with the highest college GPA, according to Truity.com. (The other type? The INFJ.)

2. Their intelligence can be a double-edged sword.

INTJs are walking think tanks who streamline the world, writes personality profiler Antonia Dodge, co-owner of Personality Hacker. People of this rare personality type excel at developing long-range strategies, designing complex systems that can be replicated and finding any weaknesses in infrastructure. Unfortunately, our society tends to marginalize problem-solvers who ask us to overhaul the way we do things, because true solutions take time and require a painful transitional period. Living in a world that seems short-sighted can make INTJs jaded and cynical. On the job, they may feel like their true talents are being wasted.

3. INTJs just ‘know’ things.

INTJs use their dominant function, introverted intuition — which is their main way of taking in and processing information — to form impressions and develop theories. This function works passively and subconsciously, which means INTJs often know something without really knowing why or how they know it. This results in sporadic “aha!” moments, as introverted intuition suddenly reveals an idea or connection to them, seemingly out of nowhere. The challenge for INTJs is to translate their amorphous revelations into more rational, communicable forms, writes Personality Junkie blogger Dr. A. J. Drenth.

4. They can be perfectionists.

Valuing quality and accuracy, INTJs strive to constantly increase their competence. They work methodically and systematically on tasks, and they’re often perfectionists with very high standards of performance for themselves and others.

5. As introverts, they need downtime to recharge.

When they get talking about a topic that interests them, INTJs can appear to be extroverts. In reality, INTJs are true introverts who must frequently spend time alone to recharge their “batteries” and do what they do best, which is reflect, analyze ideas and make connections.

6. INTJs think critically and clearly.

People of this personality type tend to thoroughly examine information they receive. They think critically and clearly, and for INTJs, the true test of an idea is if it will work efficiently and effectively in a given context. They are generally quite curious about the world around them and want to know the guiding principle behind what they see. Often they have ideas about how to do something more efficiently, and they’re more driven by outcomes than personal feelings.

7. Female INTJs smash gender stereotypes.

The INTJ personality type is rare, but to be a female INTJ is even rarer — only 1 percent of adult U. S. females identify as an INTJ (3 percent of males are INTJs). Both male and female INTJs tend to be reserved and analytical rather than chatty and emotionally expressive, so female INTJs may feel like they don’t fit the stereotypical expectation of femininity. Friends and family members, who may not fully understand the INTJ personality, may prod female INTJs to “just smile more and loosen up,” or they may question the INTJ’s lack of emotional exuberance. In reality, there is nothing wrong or lacking with the female INTJ’s communication style — instead, it is the natural way for the INTJ to be.

8. INTJs are selective in their relationships.

INTJs value intelligence and authenticity in their relationships, and they are actually much more sensitive than they appear, writes Dodge. For this reason, INTJs are highly selective about the friends or partners they bring into their life. When it comes to romance, INTJs often have clear ideas about what makes for a solid relationship, and they are often unwavering in their pursuit of this ideal, according to Truity.com. They can be almost scientific in choosing a mate, and they often have a rigorous list of requirements their partner must meet.

9. INTJs need partners who give them space.

INTJs make loyal and devoted partners in romantic relationships, but they are highly independent, so they value partners who give them enough space to pursue the interests that are important to them.

10. INTJs may struggle to act.

This is because their dominant function, introverted intuition, is a perceiving function, not a judging function. Perceivers feel more comfortable taking life as it comes, while judgers tend to actively shape their lives, relationships and environments. “More proactive types, such as ENTJs, might even deem them somewhat lazy or apathetic,”writes Dr. Drenth. “But calling INTJs (or INFJs) lazy is to miss the point of what it means to be a Perceiver. Since INTJs’ first and foremost job is to Perceive rather than Judge or act, functioning in a passive mode of perception is actually their most authentic form of ‘work,’ work that can ultimately be of great benefit to society.”

11. Many INTJs have made incredible contributions to society.

According to Truity.com, famous INTJs include Hillary Clinton, Al Gore, Bill Gates, Dwight Eisenhower, Alan Greenspan, Ulysses S. Grant, Stephen Hawking, John Maynard Keynes, Ayn Rand, Isaac Asimov, Lewis Carroll, Cormac McCarthy, and Sir Isaac Newton.

12. Real personal growth happens when INTJs turn their theories into action.

INTJs are wired to be agents of change, so producing ideas and developing theories without actually implementing them feels unsatisfactory. The way INTJs can grow and develop themselves on a personal level is by actually putting their theories to use. “When an INTJ gets into action and begins reaching mile markers, their concepts are no longer abstractions. They can be vetted, improved upon, test/iterated,”writes Dodge. “But most importantly, the INTJ is making an impact on their environment, which may be one of the most satisfying things they experience.”

BY JENN GRANNEMAN

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