havvmaage
I do stuff (sometimes magic)
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real adult™ tip from a real adult™ with executive dysfunction
do stuff while waiting for other stuff
like that sounds intuitive and vague but so much of the day is spent in a period of wait and if you struggle to motivate yourself to do things then this is the best time
waiting for your water to boil? bag up your garbage. waiting for your coffee to drip? wipe down your counters. roommate taking up the bathroom? scoop the cat box. waiting for your food to cook in the microwave? do however many dishes you can while it’s in there.
waiting is the perfect time to do a limited amount of something for yourself where you would be otherwise just standing around doing fuck-all
I resonate with every single sentence of this on a very deep level
I never felt respected by my father, because he didn't listen. Even though he loves to say "we can just talk about it", doing so feels so useless.
Every time someone (especially kids) sets a boundary I praise them for doing so. I always try to listen when a kid, and engange with what they say. Because I remember when I was a kid, and the things I said didn't really matter, or was easily dismissed.
My youngest cousin is a lot younger than the rest of us, and I can tell she appreciates what I do and the time we spend together.
Because I remember from a very young age (4 or 5) how it felt being the youngest, not having my feelings, boundaries, and words validated. Feeling ignored and unimportant.
consider: teenagers aren’t apathetic about everything they’re just used to you shitting all over whatever they show excitement about
17. Everyone is at least a little queer
Reasons why I like tumblr
1. None of my family is on here
Having a traumatic childhood means you cannot talk even objectively about your basic foundational experiences without it being "venting", even if you're not actually venting. You just straight up have a huge chunk of your life you can't talk about, full stop, without it being trauma dumping.
And it not being socially acceptable to talk about your own childhood is super alienating. Sometimes people want to know why, and any answer you can give them is going to be off putting.
It's to the point I get irritated when something I said is framed as venting when I'm literally just talking about my life experiences, doing my best to keep emotion out of it.
Sometimes, i get really insecure about my lack of formal education when talking about politics, but then I remember some people have masters degrees and still voted for Donald Trump or Peter Dutton.
Empathy needs no books or lectures to be felt, I'm not saying education is unnecessary, its extremely necessary, but I'm sick of this "they didn't know any better" bullshit when it comes to fascism and oppression. The German people should have known better, and the American people should know a hell of a lot better after all that. I am not well educated, I dropped out of high school, and even before that, I struggled because of family violence and poverty, and I totally stopped trying at school in 7th grade because I was suicidal. There are many reasons peoples education gets disrupted, which often results in more poverty and oppression. But your lack of education justifies JACK SHIT.
I was 12 when I had a screaming match with my racist grandma over her defending Derek Chauvin for the murder of George Floyd, when i was 16, I vandalised public property with activist slogans demanding justice for the Indigenous Australians being unfairly and disproportionately incarcerated and imprisoned by Australian law enforcement, I was 17, homeless, and addicted to meth when i went to my first pro-Palestine rally outside Melbourne Parliament. You do not need to be well-educated or in a good place to feel empathy for others. You don't need to be religious to love thy neighbour. You don't need ANYTHING to he a good person.
If you ever try and tell me to my face that you "didn't know any better" after supporting fascists, I will curbstomp you so hard you'll get an education through amnesia therapy and brain injury rehab.
... Fine I'll stop crying
hey, don't cry. marbled polecat, ok?
TT
the thing is that childhood doesn't just end when you turn 18 or when you turn 21. it's going to end dozens of times over. your childhood pet will die. actors you loved in movies you watched as a kid will die. your grandparents will die, and then your parents will die. it's going to end dozens and dozens of times and all you can do is let it. all you can do is stand in the middle of the grocery store and stare at freezers full of microwave pizza because you've suddenly been seized by the memory of what it felt like to have a pizza party on the last day of school before summer break. which is another ending in and of itself
TRANS IS BEAUTIFUL
@staff our identities aren’t nsfw and we will not stand for them to be treated as such
im obsessed with the idea that gothamites 100% know who all the batkids are, like “ for sure Dick Grayson is nightwing #thebuttsmatch” and they figured out all their identities and who it correlates to, “ofc the newest robin with all the swords is Damian Wayne!!” but they refuse to even consider Bruce and The Batman being the same guy. it just doesn’t make sense?? Brucie Wayne, dressing up as a bat and calling himself vengeance???? as if???? also he’s from bristol???? can’t possibly be Brucie. Like they genuinely believe that Bruce is the father to a whole gaggle of themed vigilantes and just doesn’t know it. Anytime his kids disappear during a gala, he gets a bunch of pitiful looks and he can’t leave bc everyone’s looking at him now??
This actually works into a lot of ppls theories that Brucie is The Batman’s sugar daddy, bc clearly they’re together and co parenting the batkids??
This is the worst timeline. (x)
Wizard: Oh, I like your Goblin detecting sword! That's funny.
Goblin who thought they just had a cool glowing sword: ... My what now?
THIS IS THE BEST THING I HAVE EVER SEEN
Tangerbees
tangerines
Just got of the plane. I could not stop looking at what the guy next to me had between his legs. It was amazing. Sometimes his legs were blocking it so I couldn't see it, but I still tried to peek. Even got a picture:
Obviously a little old with the white hairs, but still a very good boy. Got through the entire flight without moving or even making a sound. I really wanted to pet him, but didn't because of my allergies :(
These!
I love how humans have literally not changed throughout history like the graffiti from Pompeii has people from hundreds of years ago writing stuff like “Marcus is gay” “I fucked a girl here” “Julius your mum wishes she was with me” and leonardo da vinci’s assistants drew dicks in their notebooks just for the banter and mozart created a piece called “kiss my ass” so when people wish for ‘today’s generation’ to be like ‘how people used to’ then we’re already there buddy we’ve always been
Love those silly pictures of pets from the early 1900's
I love how humans have literally not changed throughout history like the graffiti from Pompeii has people from hundreds of years ago writing stuff like “Marcus is gay” “I fucked a girl here” “Julius your mum wishes she was with me” and leonardo da vinci’s assistants drew dicks in their notebooks just for the banter and mozart created a piece called “kiss my ass” so when people wish for ‘today’s generation’ to be like ‘how people used to’ then we’re already there buddy we’ve always been
MMMMMMMMM
MY PEOPLE
i should be given treats for not screaming loud as fuck when people make Bad Sounds
Honestly, I'm really surprised the civil war hasn't started yet. Just waiting for it to begin
I really do think he’s gonna declare martial law on Easter. Things are ramping up.
#same
yoou guys wont be laughing when i suddenly collapse unconscious and have to be taken to the hospital. then youll all see <- normal thought process to have while doing anything i dont want to
TUESDAY AGAIN NO PROBLEM
Beautiful
There are so many theories about Columbo’s wife not being real (she’s a complete fabrication, she’s secretly his boyfriend, he’s actually talking about a very opinionated cat, etc) and I love all of them but tbh he really gives off major “out of touch but super supportive straight man with a trans wife” vibes.
His wife was one of his guy friends for a while and when she finally came out to him he was like “Oh, wouldja look at that! This is VERY convenient. See, I’ve never been into guys myself. Nothing against fellas who like that, just not my cup of tea. So I’ve been trying to figure out for ages why I want to ask you out on a date. Confusin the heck out of me. Again, nothing against it, just never something I’ve been into before. I was having a whole identity crisis over it, Yknow. But I guess that clears all that up! Whaddaya say to dinner?”
Wow I really couldnt spell for the life of me last night
Just saw flamingo for thw forst time and it was amazing. I fell a bit in love with both dancers and the entire preformance style
In total there was to dancers (a man and woman), three singers, and two guitarists. Not everyone was always on stage. And I missed the danvers when they vere backstage. It looked like this
It was just amazing. The way I understood not a single word sung, but totally got what they were showinf. It show was improvosed whoch was lovely. The two dancers would sometimes be on different wavelenfrh (ofc still on the same beat) and then two seconds latee do the exacr same thing fuæly synceonized. My jaw was oon the floor. The preformers were having so much fun espessially the two dancers. They wouæd smile at each almost laughing with such a genuent joy.
And dont evem get me started on her dresses. Ooooh and that last one. It was blue and long and dragged bevind her. Red on the inside. He teased her and grapped the end at one point.
Did i mention it was amazing?
Very sorry, vert tired
Goodnight
Just saw flamingo for thw forst time and it was amazing. I fell a bit in love with both dancers and the entire preformance style
In total there was to dancers (a man and woman), three singers, and two guitarists. Not everyone was always on stage. And I missed the danvers when they vere backstage. It looked like this
It was just amazing. The way I understood not a single word sung, but totally got what they were showinf. It show was improvosed whoch was lovely. The two dancers would sometimes be on different wavelenfrh (ofc still on the same beat) and then two seconds latee do the exacr same thing fuæly synceonized. My jaw was oon the floor. The preformers were having so much fun espessially the two dancers. They wouæd smile at each almost laughing with such a genuent joy.
And dont evem get me started on her dresses. Ooooh and that last one. It was blue and long and dragged bevind her. Red on the inside. He teased her and grapped the end at one point.
Did i mention it was amazing?
Very sorry, vert tired
Goodnight
Idk how, but this artwork reminds me of Nick and Charlie
The comfort you deserve
turning into a dragon really helps in every situation
missed ur flight? dragon. insecure about how powerless you feel? dragon. want to protect the people you love? dragon. just want to be left alone? dragon. become a dragon. you want a hot dog but the power's out and a cold hot dog grosses you out? turn into a dragon and heat that shit up. want girls to be scared of you? dragon. want girls to be really inexplicably horny for you? strangely also dragon. want girls to scritch behind your horns and call you pretty when you start purring? dragon.
it will help you. become a dragon
Oh hell yeah! I would go there to get cursed
Landscape - Solitude (Richard Westall, 1811)
the original got flagged with no way to appeal it when every contributor is deactivated but I will never let this post die. it's monday and we are getting on it cunts
