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if there are some things to take into 2022, let it be these ♡

be unapologetically yourself.

those who stick with you, are meant for you. the only person you need validation from is you. don’t change for others. doing so will only distance yourself from your true, authentic self. listen to music you like, no matter how sporadic the genres are! wear the clothes you find cute, different and cool even if it’s not “trending”. trends die but you and your amazing taste is forever!! change for YOU. do what makes YOU happy. <3

learn how to respect your own boundaries.

learn how to say no. learn how to say yes. change is uncomfortable but so is growth. how do you expect to be successful and get farther into your journey if you don’t say yes to amazing opportunities because fear stops you? how do you expect to be strong and unapologetically yourself if you don’t say no to the people who keep stepping all over you? maintain a balance. set boundaries— with others and yourself. if i can do it, so can you. you deserve to set yourself free.

self discipline is the strongest form of self love.

discipline is the key. stop waiting for *countless* motivation. slumps happen. it’s normal. feel your emotions but you know what? you will always get back up on your feet. no matter how long it takes. you’ll get there. this goes for everything. people, old habits, etc. don’t let your negative thoughts ruin you when you come across a slump. feel them but don’t give them power.

motivation can only take you so far. it’s pleating. one slump after another, i soon realized that motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. you simply just have to start and not rely on anything but you and the discipline you enforce to achieve your goals. you see one amazing manifestation success story? great. now stop looking for even more validation. you know it’s possible. so go and apply the law, angel. THAT is the discipline I’m talking about.

it doesn’t matter how “small” the step is, you are still moving! find yourself struggling with intrusive thoughts and old limiting beliefs? discipline! tell yourself it’s okay it happens then move on knowing you have all the power.

what you seek is seeking you.

you are capable of living your dream life. you know what’s stopping you though? you. only you. your fear of change because it seems uncomfortable, your refusal to see how much power you hold over your life, the guilt from telling yourself that you don’t deserve it. open and allow yourself to see that everything you’ve ever wanted is NOT impossible. you can do this. if others can have it, why not you? what you desire is meant for you. it’s out there.

this is all: self love.

treat yourself with care. do it out of love for you. manifest that dream lifestyle, your dream career, dream house, dream appearance because you deserve it! cut those toxic people off so you’re no longer surrounded by their energies and mindsets. take yourself out on a solo date, get a nice meal, take yourself out shopping because you deserve to have time for yourself. read a new book, go on adventures, try new things because you deserve to live your life to it’s FULLEST! do EVERYTHING for YOU. you have gone through every battle, success, cry, celebration and all of the above since the very beginning with yourself so why not do things for you? give yourself more credit. remember: your choices, your dreams, your life.

love you. have the best year. im always here for you. x.

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MASTERLIST

GENERAL ♡

romanticising your morning

new year, new me guide(collab with @bloombabydoll)

being that girl- back to school.

making your room to be intentional

improving your life- the little aspects(collab with @honeytonedhottie)

how to start setting boundaries

making your phone to be intentional

making friends

inexpensive solo date ideas

having an intentional room

MINDSET ♡

how to stop overthinking

detachment

processing your emotions without suppressing them

how to stop comparing yourself to others

healing your inner child

how to feel satisfied/grateful in life

how to stop self sabotaging + doubting

how to begin healing

self validation

developing JOMO(joy of missing out)

stop obsessing over the past

cultivating a growth mindset

rebranding yourself

creating your own garden

changing the way you view yourself

FASHION/BEAUTY ♡

wardrobe essentials

growing out lashes + eyebrows

prettier hierarchy — image

EDUCATION/ACADEMICS ♡

being smart makes you prettier

creating + using flash cards

creating a study routine

dealing with a bad grade

going back to school as her

studying effectively in and out of school

PRODUCTIVITY ♡

How to salvage a half-wasted day

journaling guide

notion page ideas

how to be productive after school

Establishing a routine

Increasing your attention span

how to stop being lazy

HEALTH ♡

optimising sleep + maximising beauty

lowering your cortisol levels

cycle syncing beginner guide

cycle syncing: food masterlist

romanticising exercise

regulating your mood while on your period

Relieving fatigue

exercise n diet guidelines

healing from an addiction

everyday guide to vitamins

guide to starting to workout

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do you have any posts abt decentering your life from men? i think i rely on male validation wayyyyyy too much lol. love your content btw ✨

✧˖° how to stop centering your life around men (because you have way better things to do)

(a guide to decentering men, breaking free from male validation & making yourself the main character for real this time)

so you’ve noticed it... the way your mood shifts depending on whether or not he texts you back, the way your confidence is high when you’re getting attention and low when you’re not. maybe you catch yourself subtly performing when guys are around, or maybe you find yourself molding into the kind of girl you think they’d want.

and honestly? same. we’ve all been there. society trains us to believe that being wanted is the ultimate achievement, that our worth is measured by how desirable we are to men. but that’s a lie. your life was never meant to revolve around them. you were always meant to be the sun, the main event, the entire storyline.

i really hope this post can help you understand you were never meant to revolve around them. love you - mindy

✧˖° step one: start seeing them for what they actually are

listen, it’s time to be so for real with yourself. ask: do I even like this man, or do I just like the attention? do I actually think he’s interesting, or do I just want him to think I’m interesting? do I want him, or do I just want to be chosen?

because half the time? the men we obsess over are painfully mediocre. and yet we assign them so much power. letting them dictate how we feel about ourselves, letting their validation (or lack of it) determine our worth.

take a step back. stop romanticizing them. start seeing them as human beings. flawed, regular, not the prize. the real prize? is you.

✧˖° step two: detox from male validation (yes, a real detox)

you don’t realize how much male validation fuels your self-worth until you cut it off. so let’s go cut. it. off.

for the next month, no:

dressing for male attention (dress for you instead).

posting just to see if he will like it.

checking who watched your stories.

replaying conversations to see if you sounded cool enough.

instead, every time you feel the urge to seek male validation, replace it with self-validation.

take pictures just for yourself.

romanticize your own opinion of you.

remind yourself that your value doesn’t shift based on their perception of you.

✧˖° step three: become the most interesting person you know

a lot of us center men in our lives because we have nothing else filling that space. so fill it. with things that actually excite you.

start a niche hobby that makes you feel alive (pottery, screenwriting, blogging (girlblogging to be exact), literally anything).

go to cafes alone, sit in the prettiest spot, and enjoy your own company.

build your dream life piece by piece, your wardrobe, your routines, your vibe.

when you’re truly obsessed with your own life, the need for male validation just… disappears. because suddenly, you’re so content, so full, that their attention feels like an afterthought.

✧˖° step four: unfollow the pick-me content (yes, even the guilty pleasure stuff)

what you consume matters. if your feed is filled with “how to make him obsessed with you” content, if you’re constantly absorbing media that glorifies male attention, you’re subconsciously reinforcing the idea that men = purpose.

so let’s cleanse. unfollow the pick-me content. mute the male gaze influencers. instead:

fill your feed with confident, self-sufficient women.

read books by powerful women who own their narrative.

watch movies where the female lead’s story isn’t about a man.

you are not the supporting character in a man’s story. start consuming content that reminds you of that. you are a goddess, an angel, the main character of YOUR story! please remember that <3

✧˖° step five: enforce the highest standards (with zero guilt)

decentering men doesn’t mean avoiding relationships, it just means refusing to settle. it means knowing that you don’t need male validation to be worthy. and that means setting real standards:

if he’s inconsistent? he’s gone.

if he makes you question your worth? he’s out.

if he needs you to shrink yourself to fit into his life? bye.

your love life should enhance your life, not become your life. you don’t need to be chosen. you need to be cherished. there’s a difference.

✧˖° mindy’s personal tips ✧˖°

some little things that helped me fully break free from male validation: ➝ talk to yourself like you’re the love of your life - hype yourself up in the mirror, take yourself on cute dates, write love letters to you.➝ wear perfume, do your hair, and put effort into your looks even when you’re alone. let your beauty be for you, not for male approval. ➝ when a guy doesn’t text back, shift your energy immediately. instead of spiraling, get up, put on music, do something fun. do not make him your focus.

✧˖° homework: shift your energy back to you

for the next week, every time you catch yourself seeking male validation, pause. redirect that energy inward. do something for yourself instead. and watch how your entire aura changes.

because when you stop chasing their approval? you start living for real.

love you <333 so sorry this reply was sooo late

xoxo mindy