Hedonisticbambi - Fan Of The Moon

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if there are some things to take into 2022, let it be these ♡

be unapologetically yourself.

those who stick with you, are meant for you. the only person you need validation from is you. don’t change for others. doing so will only distance yourself from your true, authentic self. listen to music you like, no matter how sporadic the genres are! wear the clothes you find cute, different and cool even if it’s not “trending”. trends die but you and your amazing taste is forever!! change for YOU. do what makes YOU happy. <3

learn how to respect your own boundaries.

learn how to say no. learn how to say yes. change is uncomfortable but so is growth. how do you expect to be successful and get farther into your journey if you don’t say yes to amazing opportunities because fear stops you? how do you expect to be strong and unapologetically yourself if you don’t say no to the people who keep stepping all over you? maintain a balance. set boundaries— with others and yourself. if i can do it, so can you. you deserve to set yourself free.

self discipline is the strongest form of self love.

discipline is the key. stop waiting for *countless* motivation. slumps happen. it’s normal. feel your emotions but you know what? you will always get back up on your feet. no matter how long it takes. you’ll get there. this goes for everything. people, old habits, etc. don’t let your negative thoughts ruin you when you come across a slump. feel them but don’t give them power.

motivation can only take you so far. it’s pleating. one slump after another, i soon realized that motivation is often the result of action, not the cause of it. you simply just have to start and not rely on anything but you and the discipline you enforce to achieve your goals. you see one amazing manifestation success story? great. now stop looking for even more validation. you know it’s possible. so go and apply the law, angel. THAT is the discipline I’m talking about.

it doesn’t matter how “small” the step is, you are still moving! find yourself struggling with intrusive thoughts and old limiting beliefs? discipline! tell yourself it’s okay it happens then move on knowing you have all the power.

what you seek is seeking you.

you are capable of living your dream life. you know what’s stopping you though? you. only you. your fear of change because it seems uncomfortable, your refusal to see how much power you hold over your life, the guilt from telling yourself that you don’t deserve it. open and allow yourself to see that everything you’ve ever wanted is NOT impossible. you can do this. if others can have it, why not you? what you desire is meant for you. it’s out there.

this is all: self love.

treat yourself with care. do it out of love for you. manifest that dream lifestyle, your dream career, dream house, dream appearance because you deserve it! cut those toxic people off so you’re no longer surrounded by their energies and mindsets. take yourself out on a solo date, get a nice meal, take yourself out shopping because you deserve to have time for yourself. read a new book, go on adventures, try new things because you deserve to live your life to it’s FULLEST! do EVERYTHING for YOU. you have gone through every battle, success, cry, celebration and all of the above since the very beginning with yourself so why not do things for you? give yourself more credit. remember: your choices, your dreams, your life.

love you. have the best year. im always here for you. x.

my bf looks so bf OHMAGAWDDD

getting ready for dream girl summer 🌸🫧

a post on getting through the summer flawlessly as a dream girl <3

getting through summer looks like… basking & glowing in the beautiful sun, traveling, going out with ease, having fun, being messy and more. so let’s begin.

♡ categories: 

what does your ideal summer for this year look like? ideas, moodboards

physical: summer essentials, what to wear, makeup looks, luxuries, summer reads and bucket lists. 

mental: mindset, wellness, reads and bucket list ideas

  ♡ what’s your ideal summer? ♡

you create the definition of dream girl and it can always change. so decide what your mind and body needs. is this a time for healing? or is this a time to be adventurous?

do you see yourself in nature, enjoying the silence after a chaotic winter and spring? or going to parties, hanging out with friends, meeting new people and trying so many new things?

or why not both? 💋

some bucket list ideas:

spend more time outside than on your phone

have a morning routine. don’t lose structure in the day. switch it up for summer and make it fun.

make a list of nice restaurants in the city to try out

plan out picnic dates

buy disposable cameras and have them developed at the end of summer!

go skydiving

go to a fancy hotel bar and leave the place with someone’s number (or many)

go on late night drives!

explore a random city

try out new foods

most important of all: follow your gut. keep your safety your #1 priority.

                         physical

♡ summer essentials

sunscreen duhh, is a must no matter the season, especially for summer.

⤷ apply sunscreen before you go out and reapply ever 2 hours. look for products that are: lightweight & nonsticky, don’t leave a white cast, spf 50++

anything from sol de janeiro ugh <3

waterproof jewelry

sunglasses

sea salt spray

shimmer body oil

after sun care

your signature scent for summer (scent recommendations below)

pack light and smart with makeup if you’re one to touch up: lipstick (can be used for your eyes and cheeks also), eyeliner, etc.

hair clips/ties

qtips for makeup smudges

mini fan to cool down

small wallet

have fun and unplug but if it’s a must, carry a portable charger if you didn’t charge it in the car or before you left the house.

tissues (for sweat, blotches)

♡ outfit essentials

sundresses

mini !! skirts !!

mules

bikini tops as regular tops

gold hoop earrings

silk scarves

flowy bottoms, skirts, dresses

a cute cover up

patterns

mini bag

backless tops

                         beauty

♡ warmer weather calls for natural, glowy looks

the sun is out so it’s only natural for me to want to glow when the sun is hitting my face and body ♡ i love to really highlight my highest points.

applying subtle gold shimmer on your eyelids

lipgloss!

preferably one that is hydrating, slightly pigmented to bring out the colors in your lips & glowy. not sticky. my recommendation is the dior lip glow stick.

highlighter

my favorite is mac’s strobe highlighter in peachlite. it honestly gives my skin such a beautiful and subtle pink glow to my face!! i love applying it before my makeup.

⤷ don’t forget your collarbones and shoulders.

there is nothing else that makes me feel like a radiating goddess walking down the street when i put highlighter on my body.

⤷ also, layering powder products on top of wet/creamy products make them more pigmented! this is why you see some people wet their eyeshadow brushes before dipping them into the product ♡

blushed & flushed or nothing!

who doesn’t love a good blushed face during the summer? just because your blush is visible doesnt mean you’re wearing too much!!!! own it!!

have fun with subtle pops of color 💋

it doesn’t have to be too crazy. keep it simple.

ideas can be:

- two toned eyeshadows

- colorful winged eyeliners

- a bold lip

nails ♡

- fun & bright colors like orange & blue

- if you want to keep it simple: french tips, nudes!

♡ summer scent recommendations

marc jacobs perfect

delina - de marly

le labo thé noir 29

chanel chance

replica beachwalk & bubble bath

tom ford soleil blanc, lost cherry, neroli portofino, bitter peach

good chemistry coco blush

victoria secret bombshell beach

ariana grande - sweet like candy

solinotes cherry blossom

              for the mind & soul

♡ summer reads

nothing better than a good summer read. here are some recommendations!

my year of rest and relaxation - ottessa moshfegh

it happened one summer - tessa bailey

hook, line, and sinker - tessa bailey

beach read by emily henry

people we meet on vacation by emily henry

book lovers by emily henry

one hot italian summer - karina halle

malibu rising - taylor jenkins reid

every summer after by carley fortune

the wedding crasher by mia sosa

twisted series - ana huang (twisted love, twisted games, twisted hate, twisted lies)

birthday girl - penelope douglas

love & gelato - jenna evans welch

one italian summer - rebecca serle

hands down - mariana zapata

better than the movies - lynn painter

- have fun. kisses from blushydior ♡

~ once upon a time...~

~ Spoil yourself with the most precious and beautiful things. It doesn't have to be expensive. Simply things that make your heart flutter with peace and joy...~

            night routine ideas 🧸🛋

it’s essential to properly wind down and mend to your mind & body after a long day of strenuous activities & interactions. always make it a priority to go to sleep with a calm mind.

congratulate yourself for the day you had. yes, this still goes even if it was calm. tell yourself that you did well.

stay off your phone

stretch

make yourself a nice meal and watch a show

do any laundry & preparations for the next day

take a shower. don’t rush. take this time to relax and say affirmations. pretend you’re in a rain forest with sounds if you will.

play classical or calm music while you do your daily skincare routine (face + body)

put on a face mask

lie down and enjoy the stillness.

take out your diary and journal. self reflect on your day. what did you accomplish? what are some things you’ll need to do tomorrow? what were your overall emotions and what contributed to them?

read a book while you drink tea. i love lavender & chamomile ♡

meditate. focus on your breathing. let your thoughts pass. meditate on affirmations.

then, sleep. have sweet dreams <3

me choosing to try and interact more on tumblr

I feel so exposed 😭

“how to” masterlist | adult cheat sheet ⋆·˚ ༘ *

download free books! the world’s largest ebook library - read as much as you can! and read with an open mind ♡

daily living

manifest using the law of assumption

quick fix meals - 30 minutes or less!

easy meals for when there’s “nothing” to eat

how to use a charcoal grill

what to do when you can’t afford therapy

things to keep in your car incase of emergencies + tips for driving in the winter

where the fuck should i go for drinks? an app to find places near you.

birth control info

book recommendations for

100 organization tips (slideshow style! dont worry about endless scrolling.)

the ultimate laundry fabric care cheat sheet

step by step guide to laundry + laundry symbols

ideas for closet organization

know your rights and what to do when the cops pull you over

how to send a letter

a sweet message from dad how do i?

book recommendations (free)

master your emotions: a practical guide to overcome negativity and better manage your feelings

big panda and tiny dragon -  amazon link, i couldn’t find a pdf for this one :(

atomic habits: tiny changes, remarkable results

the 7 habits of highly effective people: powerful lessons in personal change

how to win friends and influence people

the 4-hour workweek: escape 9-5, live anywhere, and join the new rich 

the 48 laws of power

power of now

recommended reads for surviving adulthood (video)

affirmations

30 self concept affirmations

+ more will come soon!

finances

financial managment app - free

money management 101 + how to manage your money

how to open up a bank account

what’s a mortgage? loan basics for beginners

how to write a check

things to know when you have trouble paying your bills

how to do your taxes

resume workshop

car

how to jumpstart your car

how to change a flat tire

how to check your car’s fluids

how to check the air pressure in your tires

how to check and change you car oil - a complete guide video

health

things to know before you pick a health insurance plan

your first gynecologist appointment

taking care of yourself when you’re sick

note: please don’t overwhelm yourself with this post. you’re doing amazing. these things are just good to know, us humans are not built for remembering ALL of these things!!! when you’re having trouble or need some tips, this post is to be your go to reference!!

**if any links no longer work, send me an ask and i’ll fix it right away.

reminder to always cross reference if you don’t understand the linked posts. these are just things to piggy back on to get you started.

+ i’ll add more things such as daily tips and advice as time goes on and when i make tumblr posts. 

this post was inspired by this user! so shout out to them. most of it was missing so i decided why not make one myself while adding things of my touch. i hope this helps!

What would you say were the most important aspects to snag a good husband for yourself?

things in my control

I take good care of my looks and always make myself look nice on a daily basis. even if I'm just chilling at home, I'll do my skincare routine, brush my hair, and wear something that doesn't look sloppy

I stay in shape and keep my body nice. I'm a young lady in my twenties and looks matter. you have more options when you look good

I knew I wanted to get married so I was looking for a husband instead of any other dating arrangement. eyes on the prize, choose wisely

I carried myself in a way that said "I am a wife" and acted accordingly. the energy you put out there on the dating scene matters. I know what kind of marriage I want so I worked on becoming that wife early. it was just a matter of finding the husband that matches. stay ready so you don't have to get ready.

I know what I want, I know what the kind of men I like want, and I know how to win

I'm good at reading people and making judgements on those around me. I don't get involved in any capacity with men who are not viable options from the get go

things out of my control

location. NY/MA is ripe with options as far as well to do men are concerned. yes, living here was a choice but I'm sure it was easier for me to get someone like my husband here rather than if I lived in the middle of randomville USA. that doesn't mean it's impossible, there's just less options. but fret not. every city has rich areas. nice big houses in nice neighborhoods where the white collar men work. they need wives too!

things kinda sorta in my control

I take care of my looks, but my baseline is what it is. I am naturally pretty so even on my worst days, I'm not doing too bad

99% of my friends are married or on their way there which kept me in a circle of people where love flows and advice is worth taking. it's nice to have examples of what does and doesn't work right in front of you

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