hi guys!!!!! idk if this question is too personal (if so just delete this from your inbox) but you mentioned being in love?????? i wnated to know how that would work with all of you guys needing to agree and also what is this person (or persons) like?????
hey! i definitely agree having a crush on another person outside of the system is definitely difficult sometimes, especially due to opposing opinions. however, it's super important to note that not all alters will have to be in a romantic relationship with the person aforementioned! while it's quite complicated and things definitely have to be worked out with the other people or person, it is totally possible depending on their preferences. of course, other alters may not have the same affection towards this person or people as others may, and to that it gets complicated. depending on comforts, could be a polyamorous relationship, open relationship, or monogamous relationship- whatever is most comfortable for both groups overall. as for the person/people, they're the sweetest ever, lol! very supportive, accepting, open-minded, albeit a bit stubborn and competitive at times but we love them for that and honestly think its adorable! :D would genuinely fight whatever lord or god above is there for them and it's just asdiufhuihrh. rambly stupid stuff, i won't talk about it too much, but we appreciate them a ton!
thank you for the question! we rambled a little hard there, sorry if we overshared or anything a little, lol. hope that helps answer your question!
Traumagenic and endogenic headmates aren't enemies by the way. Sometimes they play Minecraft together. Sometimes they hold hands. Sometimes they kiss. Sometimes they cover work shifts or school for each other. Sometimes even within the same system. This goes for disordered and nondisordered systems too btw.
curses! you think you are a system but you also have always have a really fucking strong imagination from day 1! time for FOREVER QUESTIONING AND DOUBTING IF ANYTHING IS REAL
trying to unlearn misinfo and beliefs brought upon us from our abusers is by far one of the hardest things that weâve ever had to do for our recovery, but weâre progressing.
since apparently itâs Valentineâs Day, system appreciation post!
Youâre valid if youâre endogenic
2. Youâre valid if youâre traumagenic.
3. Youâre valid if youâre mixed origins. 4. Youâre valid if you donât know or care about your system origins. 5. Youâre valid if you are a median. 6. Youâre valid if you are polyfragmented. 7. Youâre valid if youâre mostly blurry. 8. Youâre valid if your parts are clear and distinct. 9. Youâre valid if you donât experience co-consciousness. 10. Youâre valid if you experience co-consciousness. 11. Youâre valid if you experience co-fronting. 12. Youâre valid if you donât experience co-fronting. 13. Youâre valid if you hate being a system. 14. Youâre valid if you love being a system. 15. Youâre valid if you donât know how to feel about being a system. 16. Youâre valid if your trauma doesnât fit the âtypical normâ or expected experience. 17. Youâre valid if you have factives/fictives/fucktives/songtives, etc 18. Youâre valid if you have hundreds of thousands of headmates. 19. Youâre valid if you only have a few headmates. 20. Youâre valid if you are looking for final fusion. 21. Youâre valid if you are looking for functional multiplicity. 22. Youâre valid if youâre a tulpa. 23. Youâre valid if youâre an introject who doesnât want to be like their source. 24. Youâre valid if youâre an Introject who does want to be like their source. 25. Youâre valid if your system isnât very active. 26. Youâre valid if your system is extremely active. 27. Youâre valid if you have a core. 28. Youâre valid if you donât have a core. 29. Youâre valid if you have a host. 30. Youâre valid if youâre hostless. 31. Youâre valid if you have a headspace. 32. Youâre valid if you donât have a headspace. 33. Youâre valid if you have a relationship with another headmate. 34. Youâre valid if youâre a bodily minor OR adult system. 35. Youâre valid if you donât like some/all of your headmates. 36. Youâre valid if you love all your headmates. 37. Youâre valid if youâre a disordered system. 38. Youâre valid if youâre a non-disordered system. 39. Youâre valid if youâre introject heavy. 40. Youâre valid if youâre brain-made heavy. 41. Youâre valid if youâre non-human heavy. 42. Youâre valid if youâre covert. 43. Youâre valid if youâre overt. 45. Youâre valid if youâre an age regressor. 46. Youâre valid if youâre a pet regressor. 47. Youâre valid if you donât identify with the body. 48. Youâre valid if you do identify with the body. 49. Youâre valid for feeling angry about those who hurt you. 50. Youâre valid if you have a lot of control over your system. 51. Youâre valid if you experience little to no control over your system. 52. Youâre valid if your system structure is complex. 54. Youâre valid if your system structure is simple. 55. Youâre valid if youâre mono conscious. 56. Youâre valid if youâre biconscious or triconscious. 57. Youâre valid no matter your conscious term. 58. Youâre valid if you want labels about your experiences. 59. Youâre valid if you donât want labels for your experiences. 60. Youâre valid for having source trauma. 61. Youâre valid for not having source trauma. 62. Youâre valid for having alters split due to other alters either negatively or positively. 63. You are valid if you split for no reason, or a reason you canât identify. 64. Youâre valid for being different from the norm. 65. Itâs okay to be wrong about your identity. Even if you arenât plural, itâs what fit you at the time. Identity shifts. Weâre always learning about ourselves. You made a mistake is all, youâre not a monster for making a mistake.
I could go on and on for days, but I think you get the jist.
Happy Valentines Days, everyone. <3
wAIT OK i just realized in my dissociative haze how bad that might sound to someone. but because our chronic pain and stress, this is like one of the most minor things that could happen. and twisted foot doesnât hurt too bad so like this is the best outcome tbh
Hi guys! How is your life at the moment? Everything is going well, I hope.
hey there! thanks for sending in an ask! all things considered especially due to our current situation and hyper vigilance and such, not too bad. we have a bit of a headache along with a twisted foot, a never-ending appetite, some nausea, and just the usual amount of joint pain with it being a little worse in our back, but all things considered, weâre doing pretty good and weâre still able to function (thatâs a fucking win)! thank you for asking. :)
WAIT BECAUSE WHY DID I JUST REALIZE THAT SIMPLY PLURAL HAS THAT LOGO BECAUSE ITS AN & MEANING AND. THATS SO COOL WHAT??
I know I posted a video on tiktok about this but more people need to hear this
Don't date someone unless you can't handle all their disorders, let me repeat Do not date someone unless you can handle ALL their disorders
Don't date someone with a personality disorder unless you can handle the episodes
Do not date someone with a trauma disorder can you can handle the flashblacks
Do not date someone with mood disorder unless you can handle the mood swings
Do not date someone with a disorder you cannot handle
Do not date someone if you're going to villainize them or their disorders
Do not date someone if you're going to romanticize their disorders
It shows you have little to no understanding of their disorders or who they are as a person, it shows you can't truly love them because you refuse to learn the basics of the disorder, and it shows just how much of a shitty person you are
generalized amnesia and emotional amnesia goes hard because oh yeah that extremely terrible thing happened and i donât feel anything i felt while i was experiencing and oh this other thi- NERVOUS SYSTEM SHOWS UP
obviously no overly personal questions (such as talking about trauma n such, in-depth information about alters, bodily information or anything of that sort that might put us at risk) but generally most things are fine.
hey! im opening up a q&a from a traumagenic did system to both singlets and systems of all origins! feel free to click the âsend us giggles and shitsâ button to submit a question! weâll try our best to answer to the best of our ability. just this once, we are willing to discuss and share our opinions on controversial topics among the plural community, given it is a CIVILIZED discussion. however, if these conversations end up turning sour, this will be removed promptly.
UPDATE ON THE CRUSH SITCH????
HAHAHA, yeah, still going strong. been working up the courage to confess n such, trying to still figure out if they like me back and all things. also wanting to make sure weâre both ready for a relationship because thatâs super important!
trying my best to learn about them and both pros and cons will come along with them and how i can help resolve things or support them in either case! because hey, we arenât pissed to be friends for awhile longer, getting to know them a bit more before finally coming to the conclusion whether itâs just infatuation or genuine love is always great! :)
so id say itâs going pretty well, actually. thanks for the ask!
(they/them)disordered systemi don't care what you label yourself as, it's not my business. just keep the fucking discourse off this blog.
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