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Anyone else overwhelmed with modern life expectations?

Like I could probably have graduated some housewife school like three times over now. I know the cleaning hacks. I know the social planning. I can perform the femininity, in skirts and pants. I know the sewing (functional and recreational) and the crafts. I can cook very well. I know other people of varying gender identities who can do the same (with or without the femininity, as it were).

What I can’t do is focus long enough to write 16 pages of essay on topics I am burnt out on (because of my university taking away spring break cause the Greek life kids couldn’t be responsible about the pandemic and not party for five minutes last semester), to further my education, for a career I never planned to even have as a kid, so I can be self sufficient (good) and avoid being told I’m wasting my potential (bad). Even though I’m smart enough for it, it’s not what I’m truly passionate about.

It’s all so much, like in another life I could have had a couple kids and a husband and a reasonably clean house and been living my best life by now, but instead all I have are increasingly taxing assignments, the single life, a messy house, no time for anything else and enough stress and anxiety to have been institutionalized over back then. Like I just want to be a homemaker. Thanks capitalism

Hey just a quick psa because I haven’t done one of these in a while IF YOU ARE A TERF GET OFF MY FUCKING BLOG!!! I don’t care what the fuck you call yourself, terf, gender critical, or whatever bullshit, if you don’t support trans people, I want you gone!

TRANS WOMEN ARE WOMEN

TRANS MEN ARE MEN

NON-BINARY IDENTITIES ARE REAL AND VALID

You either stand with the entire lgbt+ community or you stand with none of it. I stand with my trans siblings and if you don’t, get off my blog

Text ResistBot and buy stamps, people!! We can’t let the postal service go under! I texted ResistBot too and it’s super easy! Takes less than 10 minutes of your time!

Trump will deliver killing blow to the USPS

The USPS is about to declare bankruptcy. It’s at the center of the longstanding plans for disaster recover and has been since the Cold War. It’s the only institution that could (for example) deliver covid meds to every home in America in one day.

https://pluralistic.net/2020/03/25/national-emergency-library/#going-postal

But Congress has decided not to bail out the postal service, despite Art 1, Sec 8 of the US Constitution: “To establish Post Offices and post Roads.”

Maybe it’s because without a USPS we couldn’t have a postal vote in 2020?

https://pluralistic.net/2020/03/27/just-asking-questions/#save-usps

The proximate cause of the post office’s bankruptcy is the pandemic, but that is merely the finishing blow. The USPS was murdered in 2006, when Congress passed the Postal Accountability and Enhancement Act.

https://www.nakedcapitalism.com/2020/04/will-the-united-states-post-office-become-a-victim-of-covid19.html

The Act gave the USPS a mere 10 years to “prefund its future health care benefit payments to retirees for the next 75 years.” That is, to set aside cash to pay medical bills for future employees who hadn’t been born yet.

https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bill.xpd?bill=h109-6407

The Act gave the USPS a mere 10 years to “prefund its future health care benefit payments to retirees for the next 75 years.” That is, to set aside cash to pay medical bills for future employees who hadn’t been born yet.

https://www.govtrack.us/congress/bill.xpd?bill=h109-6407

The USPS’s murder is straight out of the neoliberal playbook: “1 Defund, 2 claim crisis, 3 call for privatizatization, 4 profit!”

As Lambert Strether points out, it was a bipartisan act of murder, cosponored by the “centrist” Democrat Henry Waxman.

Killing the USPS looms large in the Trump admin’s (nonmetaphorical, actual) privatization playbook, “Delivering Government Solutions in the 21st Century Reform Plan and Reorganization Recommendations”:

https://www.whitehouse.gov/wp-content/uploads/2018/06/Government-Reform-and-Reorg-Plan.pdf

The proposals are for USPS to become a Wework clone or franchisee, but not to become a publicly owned bank - a common line of business for other nations’ postal services, natural based on the amounts of cash they handle.

The USPS is the nation’s second largest employer of veterans, with 630,000 employees. Trump is about to allow it to collapse so that UPS, Fedex and other private firms can skim off the most profitable parts of its business and leave rural Americans totally isolated.

The loss of the USPS would mean the loss of the last truly universal federal program in America and would unduly hammer the people whom Trump claims to love – veterans and rural voters.

https://twitter.com/lildipshit3/status/1248741868440940544

This was going to be the year that I started trying to make more friends too, as well as looking for potential partners, because ideally my plan was to have a kid in the next couple years after I get my BSW, and there are, ahem, preceding things that need to happen for that. Looks like those plans got cancelled for this semester, and I only hope this all blows over by the fall semester for that reason. I don’t want to be the girl who’s pushing marriage and kids a few months into dating someone!

Share your petty gripes about how the Coronavirus has messed up your plans. Let’s make a thread of complaints together. It’s okay. They can be as small or stupid as you want.

I’ll start. My petty gripe during this whole thing is that I was saving up to buy a computer and some nice software so I could teach myself special effects and advanced video editing for my backup career plan and now that my job is shut down I have to keep all my savings to apply for grad schools next year and since my summer job got cancelled I might not even have enough for that.

Also my favorite taco shop is shut down and I’m pissed about it!

For my Christian, Catholic, and general Jesus-believing people on here. 

I like Easter as much as the next person and I still celebrate it in a different capacity, but honestly? Jesus would be disappointed if everyone ignored his sacrifice and only focused on his coming back to life.

For years I have walked into near empty sanctuaries on Good Friday. While the church is packed on Easter, as people spill into folding chairs. This is something that causes me deep grief. People come to see the victorious Christ without even understanding the depth of his miracle. Now this year, the church is empty on both Good Friday and Easter. These are strange times.

At the last Good Friday service I attended at my old church, the pastor  proclaimed at the very beginning of his sermon “no one wants to be here.” He then rambled on about how it was important to be optimistic for the coming Sunday. I remember how anger rose up from deep within me, threatening to spill out from my mouth: “Pastor, we need to be here. It is imperative we be here at this moment.” I am not necessarily a fan of atonement theology, however, it is worse to turn our eyes and hearts away from the horror of Jesus’ death.

Easter is meaningless without Good Friday. Light has no meaning without darkness.

Jesus was murdered. Easter is a story about a criminal preaching of an alternative kingdom. Seen as a terrorist, he was murdered by the Roman Empire. We cannot nor should not ignore this injustice. Jesus could not rise from the grave without being executed by the state. His resurrection would be meaningless if he was not killed by the government.

I don’t like optimistic platitudes. Easter is not a story of optimism. The words that Jesus cried “Eli, Eli, Lema Sabachthani!” are proof of this. It is important to acknowledge that we are in pain, that it is okay to feel abandoned and lost… just like Jesus. Rather, we should approach Easter as a story of hope. The Hope of Jesus Christ. This hope is not empty words of positivity. It is radical. This hope shines through the darkness like a lighthouse in a raging storm. 

In the hours in between the crucifixion and the resurrection, the Apostle’s Creed proclaims that Jesus “descended into hell.” There are early theological ideas that explain how Jesus went deep into the darkness to save souls before rising on Sunday. Many of these theologies depict Jesus fighting Death during His time in the afterlife. An Orthodox idea that I particularly like is that Jesus defeated death with death. 

We cannot ignore that the world is suffering right now. Especially those on the margins of society. The people most affected by this pandemic are the disabled, the chronically ill, the poor, the “essential,” the indigenous, the elderly. People are suffering financial burdens. People are losing their jobs. People are enduring being trapped in homes that have no love. People are in pain, unable to breathe. People are dying. For so many people, this is Hell. 

Hope will be our guide in this Hell. Hope will lead us into confronting and fighting this pandemic as well as the corrupt institutions that enable it to spread. Hope will guide us into the resurrection.

Jesus eternally dies on the cross of this world. Jesus eternally rises from the grave. Wherever Jesus is, let us be. Amen.

Happy Passover! ~Canary

Chag pesach sameach!

[Image description: A seder plate, with parsley, an egg, horseradish, a shankbone and a beet, charoset, and slices of orange. End ID]

Happy trans visibility to all the amazing trans guys, trans gals, non-binary folk, genderfluid friends, and any other trans identities! You guys are awesome <3

We see you. You matter. [March 31]

Trans identities are welcome here! Trans people are people, people!

~Canary

incase it wasn’t clear - i am and my blog is anti-terf 👍

Where is this About page you speak of? I'm on mobile

Right here, my dear! Have a lovely evening!

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Happy International Womxn’s Day!

To all who identify with the feminine~

Love to see some public broadcast television defense of trans rights, especially in the sports section! This stuff gets swept under the rug by sexist coaches and toxic sports culture way too often, and it’s really nice to see someone--especially as @kuriquinn said, an old American white dude, the demographic probably least likely to put out that defense--stand up for Mack Beggs like that!

People don’t always have to understand, so long as they are understanding and supportive.

Sportscaster Dale Hansen defends student wrestler Mack Beggs and takes a stand against transphobia

Courtney Dunkel in the Boston Globe, Massachusetts, November 10, 1950

Wholesome family life  ❤️

In the kitchen, 1958

This is a completely valid point! Aprons are far more utilitarian than they are given credit for, and too many people see the apron as some frilly little accessory because homemakers happened to appreciate their usefulness and worth.  I wish you all the best in your apron-using endeavors!!

can we eliminate the association of aprons with housewives? i own an apron and i live in it. i'm not the stay-at-home-mom type. i'm not the one who'd look after the kids and cook and clean all day. but i made this apron myself, and whenever i'm doing anything remotely messy, i wear it. doing dishes? apron. making banana bread? apron. painting, whether watercolor or acrylic? apron. using glue for anything? apron. repotting my succulents? apron. they're so useful. it's ridiculous. my dad called me 'little suzy homemaker' yesterday. i literally do not give a shit. this is a nice shirt and i will not ruin it with cake batter, karen

I highly agree with this.

Now, don’t get me wrong. I am all for breaking the heteronormative mold and rising above oppression. But one thing that I do idolize about that time was the fact that, for some families (including my great grandparents), a family, dog, vehicle and mortgage (not rent!) could be supported with one person’s income. Of course, this varied person to person due to the fact that there were many other intersectional factors at play, but it was true for some.

Nowadays, in most places, you’re lucky to get a half-decent house or a reasonable apartment with both partners in a relationship working multiple jobs, and even then they have to worry about food and bills, nevermind transportation and pets. 

This is why we need a wealth tax and some serious redistribution.

Maybe the fertility rate for The United States wouldn’t be so dismally low if we had an economy the could support single-earner households.

Nicely put! Too many worry that they’ll be called catfishes if they aren’t 100% dressy for their SO all the time, but it’s unreasonable to expect constant prim and proper from everyone all the time. 

if your husband cannot bear to see your bare face, then he does not truly love you. if you fear his reaction to when you don’t wear makeup, then he does not truly love you. he should love you in all your forms. 

Feminism should definitely be more inclusive of femininity! 

Can we please kill this idea that you can’t be feminine AND a feminist? Who even started this? Who decided that being a traditional woman means you can’t stand strong alongside your sisters?

New blog, hello there!

Reblog if you’re a tradfem/housewife blog that is SFW and is against racism and Nazism. I’m need more blogs to follow.

Now that sounds like one peaceful life!

I just want a nice home. A nice home to clean, decorate, & make warm, welcoming, & safe for not only my family & I, but for those in our lives. A home that people look forward to stepping foot in, not dread.

I want a husband who is not only my best friend, but my soul-mate & provider. Who I know always has things under control. Who makes me feel safe, like he'll never stop loving me. Like I can always depend on him. Like he'll never hurt me & I'll never live in fear again.

I want children. Children that I can care for, love, & play with all day. Children that will always know that mommy & daddy always have their best interests at heart. Who know mommy & daddy love each other just as much as they love them, so they can grow up with a healthy view of what a relationship should be. Children that I can tuck in at night after reading a story to, after having given a nice warm bath & can chase around the house or out in the yard during the day.

I want a nice, big kitchen that I can cook & bake in. A kitchen that always has food waiting to be eaten that I made for those I love. They'll never have to worry about going hungry. None of us will.

I want pets that we can play with & brush & give treats & new toys to. Pets that will settle down with us at night in front of a fire in chilly evenings & will be a part of our family.

I want a garden. One where I grow food to use for recipes. One where my children are free to learn how to use their hands to dig into the soil to plant their favorite fruits or vegetables.

I want a calm, loving life. I want to settle down. I don't need to travel the world. I don't need to be famous or rich. I just want simplicity. But for some reason, it feels like asking for that is what's known as too much nowadays.

If my femininity within the context of my own life threatens you to the point that you feel the need to attack my life choices, maybe you need to reevaluate why you feel so threatened by traditional feminity. Because it’s not like I’m asking you to live the same way I do.

I’m just asking for the same freedom you want, to live in a way that makes me happy.

You don’t have to call me out like that! 

What people think tradfem blogs are like: Endless posts about why traditionnal gender roles are the only way to live your life

What tradfem blogs really are like: b r e a d.

I may be pro-choice, but this is really well said!

To All My Fellow Pro-Lifers:

Pro-life doesn’t apply only to unborn children. It applies to the children of today, the children without access to school or food, the children who get hurt or die from preventable causes or crimes.

When we’re pro-life, we fight to protect all children.

It honestly amazes me how many of my friends and women I know would love to be homemakers but they are embarrassed to admit it. Its sad that it is assumed that all women should want to be “hustlers” and “boss ladies” and wanting to being a homemaker is seen as outdated and having a lack of ambition. 

I’ll admit that I’m a little shy talking about my true goals sometimes, but when I get to connect with another woman who shares the same aspirations it really means so much to me. 

*Just want to make it clear that I’m not hating on women who have career goals. I love and support them too! 

New blog here, 100% agree!!

Anyone else ever follow a seemingly cute tradlife/cottagecore/homesteading blog, only to cringe and hit the unfollow button when you’re scrolling through your dash and see them reblog some vitriolic anti-choice post about how evil abortion is, and how consenting to sex is consenting to pregnancy?? Or is it just me that that happens to all the time?

Clearly I need to find more progressive bloggers with an interest in femininity to follow. I know there are more of us, despite the majority of the community being conservative! To me, there are few things more traditionally feminine than the practice of caring for and protecting ones’ own body and choosing what’s best for it (and your family). Women have been making tinctures to prevent pregnancy (carrot seed, anyone?) and brewing teas to end unwanted ones for literally as long as humanity has existed. Midwifery as a folk practice often included mentoring young women in safe sexual practices for the time, and family planning was of paramount seriousness in a world where childbirth was dangerous and children died so young. Where is my representation for that traditional femininity–the kind that cherishes pregnancy and infants, but understands the importance of being able to choose the right time for them?

I invite anyone who disagrees with this to kindly unfollow me. And for those of you who do agree, please reblog and help me find more like-minded, feminist blogs that still enjoy homemaking and traditional interests!

Home Mothers & Working Mothers are both valid.

you can do either one and still love your children with all your heart~