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books i read in 2022: i kissed shara wheeler by casey mcquiston
Competition is why she can’t stop poking around the place where Shara is supposed to be. As long as they’ve both been at Willowgrove, Chloe finally had someone to fight for dominance, and that gave some kind of reason to her life. It’s not like Shara is that important; it’s just that, without her, Chloe’s not sure what the point of anything is.
“Who is she when, for once, no one is looking?”
- I Kissed Shara Wheeler by Casey McQuiston
This book goes on sale tomorrow, and all I can say is that Casey is three for three on books that make me roll with laughter, choke up, and surge with hope. Unlike RWRB and OLS, Shara Wheeler is a YA novel, but it never underestimates its reader, delivering a plot that makes you just about as obsessed as Chloe is with the hunt for the missing prom queen, Shara. This story tackles religious conservativism, gender/sexual identity, the red state/blue state divide, among other themes, but the theme that spoke most to me was about truly seeing people as they are, as opposed to through the filter we unwittingly apply through a combination of social conditioning and our own hidden wounds.
For that reason, I painted Chloe seeing Shara through a looking glass. <3
I can’t recommend this one enough y’all. Grown-up readers: You will love it too! (I sure did!)
PS: Easter eggs abound….👀
talk about deaf Adam Parrish
[GASPS LOUDLY] MY CHILD
i’m really emotional about adam using his hearing as an excuse to shut himself away in his room above the church instead of heading over to monmouth like. if he’s feeling too drained or angry or tired to be around the others he’ll tell himself that there’s no point going round because he won’t even be able to hear them anyway so really he might as well just curl up in his bed and press his fists into his eyes and pretend he doesn’t feel empty all the time
also really into ronan noting this and going round to the church every other day that adam skips out and hammering on the door until adam gives in and lets him in. once he’s in ronan throws himself down on adam’s bed, always on adam’s right, and tells him everything he’s missed, and they both pretend like he’s doing it to catch adam up even though it’s mostly ronan complaining about blue and gansey and how sickening they both are
ronan and noah being the best at making sure adam can hear them, but doing it in polar opposite ways. noah always manages to be standing on adam’s right with a soft smile and speaks a little louder when he’s facing away from adam so adam can still hear — noah slips it into like he’s been doing it his whole life, like it’s completely natural, ducking his head sheepishly whenever adam flashes him a grateful look. ronan actively moves to make sure adam can always hear him, keeps his head at least a little turned towards adam at all times (although that’s not entirely for adam’s benefit), starts using bigger gestures and facial expressions to illustrate what he’s saying — but whenever adam mentions it or smiles gratefully, ronan ignores him, like he’s not sure whether he actually wants adam to notice or not
blue appears at adam’s room with a book on asl and a fierce determination in her eyes that has adam stepping back even as he tells her he’s not fully deaf, you know, i can still speak normally, and blue just shrugs, tells him she’s been thinking about learning it for a while anyway. pretty sure they’re signing whole conversations together in the back of the pig or across the room at monmouth, and adam enjoys having a way of communicating where they’re on the same level again
gansey keeps forgetting and carrying out whole conversations with adam that adam only catches a fifth of, and with anyone else adam knows he’d get mad and storm off but gansey repeats himself over and over without ever looking like it bothers him in the slightest and honestly half the time gansey isn’t looking for responses so adam can just sit back and let the sound of talking wash over him without having to focus on actually hearing any of it properly
i care a lot about adam curled up against the wall watching everyone arguing about something he can’t really follow because he’s not hearing enough of it and some days it’s enough to just be able to be in the same room and be included even if he can’t join in but other days it makes him feel so isolated that it sits hollow and aching in his stomach; i care about adam who gets used to accidentally ending up on the wrong side of the group when they’re walking somewhere or sat around in monmouth, adam who spends a lot of time lost in his own thoughts even when he’s with the others because he can’t hear them all; i care about adam who presses his right ear into his pillows when he breaks down at night because it makes it all feel less real when he can’t hear himself gasping wetly for breath; i care about adam who has nightmares where he wakes up and can’t hear anything at all, not even out of his right ear
all the little ways the group accommodates it: adam always gets the left seat in the back of the pig so the others are on his good side; the boys swap seats with kids on the left side of all their classrooms so adam can still hear their teachers; someone is always stood on adam’s right to relay messages when they’re in the forest or sneaking around and they’ve all got to lower their voices
adam my poor child so scared his deafness will only isolate him further from the group and the group refusing to let that happen ple a s e
The Haunting of Bly Manor Parallel: The Beast in the Jungle (1x09) // Dani & Jamie “the most”
“I didn’t fall for Iris like a ton of bricks. I fell like I was a star and she was the end of the world. A cataclysmic crash of two people, never to be the same.”
The Girls I’ve Been, by Tess Sharpe
NORA AND IRIS. the girls i've been by tess sharpe
her hand slipped around my waist and her hip brushed against mine like she belonged there, and it felt like she did, in every vital part of me.
[insp]
Actually, I thought that INFPs were pretty morally obvious. Most of the life choices an INFP makes are based on one internal personal guideline or another.
Perhaps there might be some confusion as to what exactly are these mysterious INFP morals. Why aren’t they perfectly clear to others? And how does an INFP make decisions based on them?
From personal experience, my internal guidelines are the feels that let me know when something is good or not so good. They probably aren’t based on anything logical other than “be nice to each other and if you’re not nice to someone I care about, I will kick you in your butt!”
So maybe that is morally ambiguous after all…? I’m a nice person and dislike hurting people, but I will harm someone if they hurt a loved one. The morals aren’t ambiguous to me, but maybe it’s unclear to others? Haha! It’s good to keep them guessing. 😅
I also read that abstract thinking is part of being an Intuitive type.
I find it difficult to be objective and answer this question outside of myself. I’m too immersed in it and I’m not certain in this instance what it’s like not to have internal guidelines that help in life. I would be so very lost! 😕
These internal morals aren’t ambiguous to me, but they probably are to non-INFPs? That’s as close to an answer as I have. 💗
Thanks for the question! 😊
Related questions- How would an INFP discover their ideals? What’s an INFP who hasn’t discovered his values like? As an INFP, what are some of your main values and beliefs and what are the reasons behind them?
being vulnerable enough to tell people how much you care about them is infinitely more brave than pretending to be above love and using edginess as a method of self-preservation
Whoaa tht's me?
Thanks for the tag :)@nayshizzledivy
I made a uquiz! What are your best qualities? Because I refuse to accept your “I have none” reblogs on this post.
😂🤦♀️😺💙🤗🤣
I'll start:
✨😭🤷🏼♀️🌞❤✌🏻
Well, not so bad.... I guess.....
I have had that thought often. Wrong place. Wrong time. Wrong life.
But I’m not sure if it’s the planet that’s wrong, so much as everything around me is wrong.
I look about and listen. I see injustice. I see power plays that take advantage of people. I see children being killed in schools. Lies are told on the television. We are gas-lighted. Stolen from. Told it’s all our imagination.
How is any of that right?
When I was a child I would daydream about living on a healthier world. One that was not this one. But how would I get there? Walk through a door? Exit my body and float to another plane?
I’m obviously still here. Still feeling that this existence is wrong. And not truly knowing how to feel any differently about it, other than putting on my survival mask and pretending that I get through the day like everyone else. 💗
Thanks for the question. 😌
"My Ghost
Where'd you go?
What happened to the soul that you used to be."
-Ghost,Halsey
“A ghost can be a lot of things. A memory, a daydream, a secret. Grief, anger, guilt. But, in my experience, most times they’re just what we want to see. Most times, a ghost is a wish.”
― The Haunting of Hill House (2018) dir. Mike Flanagan
“There are things that tie them to a place, very much like they do us. Some remain tethered to a patch of land. A time and date. The spilling of blood. A terrible crime. But there are others. Others that hold onto an emotion. A drive. Loss. Revenge. Or love. Those, they never go away.”
― Crimson Peak (2015) dir. Guillermo del Toro
“There are such things as ghosts. People everywhere have always known that. And we believe in them every bit as much as Homer did. Only now, we call them by different names. Memory. The unconscious.”
― Donna Tartt, The Secret History
“What is a ghost, after all, but a repressed memory, the past demanding to be heard in the present?”
― Alfred Mac Adam, Introduction of Jane Austen’s Northanger Abbey
“If that staid old house near the Green at Richmond should ever come to be haunted when I am dead, it will be haunted, surely, by my ghost. O the many, many nights and days through which the unquiet spirit within me haunted that house when Estella lived there! Let my body be where it would, my spirit was always wandering, wandering, wandering, about that house.”
― Charles Dickens, Great Expectations
“May you not rest, as long as I am living! You said I killed you — haunt me, then! The murdered do haunt their murderers. I believe — I know that ghosts have wandered on earth. Be with me always — take any form — drive me mad! only do not leave me in this abyss, where I cannot find you! Oh, God! it is unutterable! I cannot live without my life! I cannot live without my soul!”
― Emily Brontë, Wuthering Heights
“Come back! Even as a shadow, even as a dream”
― Euripides, Herakles
“In one aspect, yes, I believe in ghosts, but we create them. We haunt ourselves.”
― Laurie Halse Anderson, Wintergirls
“In real life it’s the living who haunt you.”
— Franz Wright, from section 1 of “Observations,” Earlier Poems (Alfred A. Knopf, 2007)
“Perhaps I haunted her as she haunted me”
— Daphne du Maurier, Rebecca
“They were nothing more than living ghosts, haunting each other with what could be. What can’t be.”
― Libba Bray, A Great and Terrible Beauty
“And how odd it is to be haunted by someone who is still alive.”
― I Guess the Old You is a Ghost (#589: June 25, 2014)
“You’ll always be my favourite ghost”
― Big God, Florence + the Machine
“I’m begging you to keep on hunting me”
― Haunting, Halsey
“I’ll come back to haunt you”
― Haunt, Bastille
We are all, in the private kingdom of our hearts, desperate for the company of a wise, true friend. Someone who isn’t embarrassed by our emotions, or her own, who recognizes that life is short and that all we have to offer, in the end, is love.
Cheryl Strayed
@mcquistonsource event 5: favorite character — alex claremont-diaz
i wanted to believe in some people being good and doing this job because they want to do good. doing the right things most of the time and most things for the right reasons. i wanted to be the kind of person who believes in that.
happy birthday alex claremont-diaz & @breematthew 🤍
@projectliteratureevent 01 : 2020 releases — only mostly devastated, sophie gonzalez
“Even if no one could promise that everything would work out perfectly, right here and now, in this exact moment, it was perfect.
And right here and now was the only thing that ever mattered anyway.” insp (x)
@projectliterature event 01 : 2020 releases — only mostly devastated
maybe our happily ever after hadn’t worked on the first shot. and maybe happily ever afters weren’t a singular event. maybe they were something you had to work at, and build, and never give up on, as long as they were something you still wanted.
only mostly devastated, sophie gonzales // check please, ngozi ukazu
I mean it's not the 12th anymore so I missed Henry's bday but I still wanted to post something for it 🚶♀️
Alex threw him a small bday party for him ❤️
(This is the first time I've ever really drew them so this was fun)
Tagging: @themostawesomehuman @julieandthefandoms @fieryfantasybooklover @older-brother-kit @hands-dripping-ink @vxnya-hxrgreeves @delilahssbard @oscar-fairchild @insane---chaos @chibi-tsukiko @stxr-thxif @molinasjulie @princessmuk @flynnsupremacy
I think this answer depends on the reasons they need to be more social and attentive. It also depends on whether or not the INFP wants to be more social and attentive.
I’m wondering about the word “more” in this question. It hints that an INFP’s current level of attentiveness and social interaction isn’t good enough.
If they’re in a social situation, the INFP will probably be as social as they’re capable. If you don’t want an INFP to become inauthentic, don’t point out that they’re not doing enough.
INFPs are Introverts, which might explain why they may not be as social as an Extrovert. And I also feel that INFPs are naturally quite attentive to others, especially in one-on-one conversations.
So, how can we teach an INFP to be a super alert Extrovert, while allowing them to be true to themselves? Hmm…
Perhaps by just accepting them as they are. If that isn’t enough, you can always find plenty of more-socially attentive individuals amongst the Extroverted types. 💗
Thanks for the question. 😊