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Happy international lesbian day 👩❤️💋👩✨
in light of a murderer walking free simply bc he was white, please try to educate yourself and work towards preventing this.
blacklivesmatter.carrd.co (ways to help + resources for educating yourself)
blacklivesmatter.com (fund the movement + understand issues)
donate to the cause
black lives movement (how you can help)
color of change (take part in campaigns)
support black trans people (fund + educate)
blm masterpost
various people's gofundmes (donate)
resources
support black lives
masterpost of gfms
help black trans people
crowdfunding for black trans people
help the safety and defense of black trans women
please feel free to add any more you find in the reblogs!
Were You Born Under The Gaslight?
When applied to a family, the gaslight treatment is a special form of dysfunction. It happens when you, a child, receive messages or encounter experiences within the family which are deeply contradictory. Messages which are opposing and conflicting; experiences which can’t both be true. When you can’t make sense of something, it’s natural to apply the only possible answer:
“Something is wrong with me.”
Today, scores of children are growing up under a gaslight of their own. And scores of adults are living their lives baffled by what went on in their families, having grown up thinking that they, not their families, are crazy.
I have seen gaslighting cause personality disorders, depression, anxiety, and a host of other lifelong struggles. Receiving contradictory messages that don’t make sense can shake the very ground that a child walks on.
The Four Types of Child Gaslighting:
1. The Double-Bind Parent: This type was first identified by Gregory Bateson in 1956. The double-bind mother has been linked by research to the development of schizophrenia and Borderline Personality Disorder. This type of parent goes back and forth unpredictably between enveloping (perhaps smothering) the child with love and coldly rejecting him.
The Message: You are nothing. You are everything. Nothing is real. You are not real.
The Gaslight Effect: As an adult, you don’t trust yourself, your validity as a human being, your feelings, or your perceptions. Nothing seems real. You stand on shaky ground. You have great difficulty trusting that anyone means what they say. It’s extremely hard to rely on yourself or anyone else.
2. The Unpredictable, Contradictory Parent: Here, your parent might react to the same situation drastically differently at different times or on different days, based on factors that are not visible to you. For example a parent who is under the influence of alcohol or drugs one day and not the next; a parent who is manic at times, and depressed other times, or a parent who is extremely emotionally unstable. Whatever the reason for the parent’s opposing behaviors, you, the innocent child, know only that your parent flies into a rage one moment and is calm and seems normal the next.
The Message: You are on shaky ground. Anything can happen at any time. No one makes sense.
The Gaslight Effect: You don’t trust your own ability to read or understand people; you have difficulty managing and understanding your own emotions, and those of others. You struggle to trust anyone, including yourself.
3. The Appearance-Conscious Family: In these families, style always trumps substance. All must look good, or maybe even perfect, especially when it’s not. There’s little room for the mistakes, pain, or natural human shortcomings of the family members. The emphasis is on presenting the image of the ideal family. Here, you experience a family which appears perfect from the outside, but which is quite imperfect, or even severely dysfunctional, on the inside. This can stem from Achievement / Perfection focused parents (as described in Running on Empty), or from narcissistic parents.
The Message: You must be perfect. Natural human flaws, mistakes, and weaknesses must be hidden and ignored. You are not allowed to be a regular human being.
The Gaslight Effect: You feel deeply ashamed of yourself and your basic humanness. You ignore your own feelings and your own pain because you don’t believe it’s real, or that it matters. You tend to see and focus on only the positive things in your life, which fit into a particular template. You are extremely hard on yourself for making mistakes, or you put them out of your mind and simply pretend they didn’t happen. You may be missing out on the most important parts of life which make it worthwhile: the messy, real world of intimacy, relationships and emotion.
4. The Emotionally Neglectful Family (CEN): In this family, your physical needs may be met just fine. But your emotional needs are ignored. No one notices what the children are feeling. The language of emotion is not used in the home. “Don’t cry,” “Suck it up,” “Don’t be so sensitive,” are frequently uttered by the CEN parent. The most basic, primary part of what makes you you (your emotional self) is treated as a burden or non-existent.
The Message: Your feelings and needs are bad and a burden to others. Keep them hidden. Don’t rely on others, and don’t need anything. You don’t matter.
The Gaslight Effect: You have been trained to deny the most deeply personal, biological part of who you are, your emotions, and you have dutifully pushed them out of sight and out of mind. Now, you live your life with a deeply ingrained feeling that you are missing something that other people have. You feel empty or numb at times. You don’t trust yourself or your judgments because you lack your emotions to guide you. Your connections to others are one-way or lack emotional depth. Even if you are surrounded by people, deep down you feel alone. None of it makes any sense to you.
Were you born under the gaslight? If so, you are not alone. You are not invalid or crazy or wrong. it’s vital to realize that you have been, by definition, deeply invalidated. But “invalidated” and “invalid” are not the same. “Invalidated” is an action, and “invalid” is a state of mind. You can’t change what your parents did and didn’t do, but you can change your state of mind.
SOURCE: [ x x x x ]
Cause we’re all gay for the snap
I just had to paint the hot metal dad!!
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)Wanna watch some lesbians?!
I know how hard it can be to find representation on tv (even tho its getting better), so if you dont know what to watch next and you want to see some wlw scenes/plots - this list is for you
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MOVIES:
-A Date for Mad Mary (2016)
-Ana e Vitória (2018)
-Aimee and Jaguar (1999)
-All about E (2015)
-Almost Adults (2016)
-Atomic Blonde (2017)
-AWOL (2016)
-Becks (2017)
-Better Than Chocolate (1999)
-Below Her Mouth (2016)
-Bloomington (2010)
-Booksmart (2019)
-Blue is The Warmest Colour (2013) [La Vie d'Adèle]
-Brides To Be (2016)
-But I’m a Cheerleader (1999)
-Carmilla Movie (2017)
-Carol (2015)
-Colette (2018)
-Cloudburst (2011)
-D.E.B.S. (2004)
-Desert Hearts (1985)
-Disobiedience (2017)
-Elena Undone (2010)
-Elisa y Marcela (2019)
-Ek Ladki ko Dekha Toh Aisa Laga (2019)
-Feel Good (2020)
-First Girl i Loved (2016)
-Girltrash: All Night Long (2013)
-Hearts Beat Loud (2018)
-Heartland (2017)
-I Can’t Think Straight (2007)
-Imagine Me&You (2005)
-It’s in The Water (1997)
-Kiss Me (2011) - [kiss myg]
-Kissing Jessica Stein (2001)
-La Luciernaga (2015) [The Firefly]
-Let It Snow (2019)
-Lez Bomb (2018)
-Lost and Delirious (2001)
-Loving Anabelle (2006)
-My Days of Mercy (2017)
-Nina’s Heavenly Delights (2006)
-Pariah (2011)
-Portrait of a Lady on Fire (2019)
-Rafiki (2018)
-Room in Rome (2010)
-Saving Face (2004)
-Season of Love (2019🎄)
-Summer Time (2015) [La belle saison]
-Tell it To the Bees (2018)
-Thelma (2017)
-The Children’s Hour (1961)
-The Half Of It (2020)
-The Favourite (2019)
-The Feels (2017)
-The Four-Faced Liar (2010)
-The Handmaiden (2016)
-The Incredible True Story of Two Girls in Love (1995)
-The Miseducation of Cameron Post (2018)
-The Perfect Ending (2015)
-The Perfection (2018)
-The World Unseen (2007)
-Vita and Virginia (2018)
-When Night is Falling (1995)
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TV SHOWS:
!!!!! 🖍 = an animated series !!!!!
-Amar a Muerte (2018-2019)
-Amar en Tiempos Revueltos (2005-)
-Amar es Para Siempre (2013-)
-Atypical (2017-)
-Bad Girls (1999-2006)
-Batwoman (2019-)
-Black Lightning (2018-2021)
-Black Mirror - San Junipero (2011-)
-Brooklyn Nine Nine (2013-)
-Buffy, The Vampire Slayer (1997-2003)
-Cable Girls (2017-)
-Charmed (2018-)
-Dead To Me (2019-)
-Dear White People (2017-)
-Degrassi: The Next Generation (2001-2015)
-Derry Girls (2018-)
-Dickinson (2019-)
-Euphoria (2019-)
-Everything Sucks (2018)
-Faking It (2014-2016)
-Feel Good (2020-)
-Fingersmith (2005)
-Gentelmen Jack (2019-)
-Gentefied (2020-)
-Glee (2009-2015)
-Grey’s Anatomy (2005-)
-Gypsy (2017)
-🖍Harley Quinn (2019-)
-Home and Away (1988-)
-I am not okay with this (2020)
-Jane the Virgin (2014-2019)
-Killing Eve (2019-)
-Legacies(2018-)
-Legends of Tomorrow (2016-)
-Lip Service (2010-2012)
-Locked Up (2015-2019) [vis a vis]
-Lost Girl (2010-2015)
-Mindhunter (2017-)
-Motherland: Fort Salem (2020-)
-Never have I ever (2020-)
-One Day at a Time (2017-)
-Orange is The New Black (2013-2019)
-Orphan Black (2013-2017)
-Perdona Nuestros Pecados (2017-2018)
-Pretty Little Liars (2010-2017)
-Ratched (2020-)
-Riverdale (2017-)
-Runaways (2017-2019)
-Russian Doll (2019)
-Schloss Einstein - Staffel 23 (2019-2019)
-Sense8 (2015-2018)
-Sex Education (2019-)
-🖍She-Ra and the Princesses of Power (2018-2020)
-South of Nowhere (2005-2008)
-Supergirl (2015-)
-Skins (2007-2013)
-Stranger Things (2016-)
-🖍Steven Universe (2013-)
-Tales of The City (2018-)
-Teenage Bounty Hunters (2020)
-The 100 (2014-2020)
-The Guiding Light (1952-2009)
-The Haunting of Hill House (2018)
-The Haunting of Bly Manor (2020)
-The Hockey Girls (2019-2020) [Les de l'hoquei]
-The House of Flowers (2018-)
-The L Word (2004-2009)
-The L Word: Generation Q (2019-)
-The Morning Show (2019-)
-The Originals (2013-2018)
-The Other Love Story (2016-)
-The Shannara Chronicles (2016-2017)
-The Umbrella Academy (2019-)
-Tipping the Velvet (2002)
-Trinkets (2019-2020)
-Queer as Folk (2000-2005)
-You (2018-)
-You Me Her (2016-2020)
-Venice the Series (2009-)
-Warrior Nun (2020-)
-Wentworth (2013-)
-Wynnona Earp (2016-)
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WEB SERIES:
-Anyone But Me
-ANNE+
-All for One
-Barbelle
-BIFL the series
-Carmilla
-Control (Kontrola)
-Gal Pals
-Girls Like Magic
-Girltrash
-Her Story
-Last Life
-Pot Luck
-RED
-The Other Love Story
-THE STRIPPER
-Same Same
-SKAM Espana
-Starting From Now
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
YOUTUBERS:
-Alayna Joy
-Ally Hills
-Alissa and Sam
-Anna Campbell
-Amy Ordman
-BerkleyLovesTori
-Breane Williamson
-Cammie Scott
-Cristy Lawrance
-Drea and Ronnie
-Hannah Hart
-Hannah & Sadie
-Jessica Kellgren-Fozard
-Kale and Jess
-Karin and Skyler
-Keara Graves
-Kristen McKenzie
-Maria Lin
-Monica Nguyen
-Paige and Holly
-Rose and Rosie
-Sara and Rachel
-Sam and Alyssa
-Shannon Beverige
-Stevie Boebi
-Willow Faith
🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈🏳️🌈
I’m gonna update the list (SEE THE PINNED POST ON MY DASH), so if you know any other title let me know!
and please REBLOG - you never know who needs it right now
——updated 07.11.2021—–
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i am not joking we need to force teach cooking in schools. like. it is an essential thing for survival. do you know how easy it is to make things if you know even the bare bones shit about how cooking works. we need to teach teenagers how far you can take an onion and some other veggies it’’s sad that people grow up not knowing how to prepare literally anything. and i’m not talking about oh this home ed class taught me how to make chicken nuggets at home i’m talking about learning the balancing of sweetness and acidity and saltiness and bitterness and shit like that and techniques and oil temperatures and how meats cook. it needs to be taught because it’s literally not even that difficult and it matters so much
Hi! I’m really sick of whitewashing and the various excuses that artists come up with, so I wrote a guide! How To Not Whitewash, at least with regards to skin tone. Please make use of it, and encourage other artists to do so as well. Here’s a link to this guide on a Google Doc - this document has image descriptions. Feel free to contact me if the link stops working, or if you have questions (in good faith).
Poska literally just succumbed to the Charm Person spell of a 2nd level druid and they think they’re strong enough to “exploit some weakness” of Shaun Motherf*cking Gilmore???
I hope that the Nameless Ones get a clue that any significant attack committed on Gilmore would have dire consequences for their fate
Sorry, but the hilarity of Poska threatening Shaun “fought the Chroma Conclave and lived” “annihilated the Rakshasa’s assassins” “developed and sustained a magical barrier protecting an entire city from the Chroma Conclave for months” “survived Vecna” “beloved friend of Vox Machina” Gilmore cannot be overstated.
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happy juneteenth🤍!!! here's a list of black gfms that have yet to meet their goals! (black ppl feel free to link your or others donation posts in a reblog! reblogs from nonblack ppl appreciated!)
help teej's sister get a breast reduction.
help audi, a closeted black lesbian, move out of a toxic household.
help shay, a black nonbinary, with their moving expenses.
help gaia afford a house for her father suffering with homelessness and stage 3 colon cancer.
help a autistic transmasc lesbian move out of an ableist and abusive household.
help sapphire, a black transwoman, get out of an abusive household.
help sol, a black transwoman, with her transition and other necessities.
help melanie with her gender affirming surgery.
help a disabled incoming freshman pay for college.
help micah, a black queer transmasc person move.
help silver, a gnc black lesbian get a new camera and laptop.
help zora, a nonbinary transfem, move and transition.
help noelle, a black transwoman afford surgery and other basic necessities.
If you're not out and can't celebrate pride irl, join me in having the best mental pride celebration EVER. I might be talking to my parents about chemistry, but in my mind I'm at a pride parade waving 22 flags. Never underestimate the power of a silent rebellion.
If you're not out, you are still valid and deserve to celebrate in whatever way you can! <3
pride month 2021!!
Would you say he was an ace in their hand of cards??
Caduceus with another successful divine intervention
Asexuals are too powerful
critical role really said “no we un-bury our gays”
so.
i guess fanfiction wasn’t a phase….