Humility Pays Off… But Only In The Long-term
Humility pays off… but only in the long-term
Since young, all children are ingrained the common values of humility and integrity. What’s more virtuous than someone with inflated sense of self-esteem who constantly vies for recognition built with a wall of lies than a quiet, well-doing boy/girl?
“Sit down, be humble”
Unfortunately, such notion of true humility is mostly over especially in the Internet age. It’s so easy to “gain reputation” on social media nowadays. There’s nothing more satisfying than seeing the Likes/Loves/Views counter rapidly tickling upwards after every new post/video is made.
Thus, it fuels instant gratification and demands for more posts or fresh content to be made more regularly, which eventually erodes the value of humility in real life. (e.g. literal "updates" on Instagram) This is something unnoticeable that everyone overlooks when interacting on social media. This change of norm slowly aggravates into public request/demand for Likes/Loves on recent posts.
Other forms of inexplicit showing off include asking for advice/comments on the newly purchased accessory or item. Essentially, any action that calls for attention, whether deemed explicit or inexplicit, is sufficient to be labelled “showing off.”
It’s intrinsically recognisable, but unspoken
It seems to be widely misunderstood that just because someone doesn’t point that out, it means they don’t know or don’t notice. The reason why no one points out is because
It’s too miscellaneous. It’d backfire if the person is too picky on things that are too insignificant. And it’s hard to substantiate too.
Risk of social isolation. It’s quite foul to point out such thing to anybody. I’d personally also consider it as an act of hostility if anyone tries to point this to me, whether publicly or privately.
Friends' bias. (True) Friends will always respect and defend for one another. They would rather close an eye than pointing it out.
Generally, in most cases, they fall under (1). No one is that pernickety to point out such trivial matter.
Of course, it's possible that there are instances that go completely unnoticed. Nevertheless, they are still intrinsically recognised but can't be verbalised. That's the reason why ultimately real humble persons are recognised and commended as it's something rare.
So why should you be really humble?
Hmm, I can't thing of any practical benefit other than to gain even more reputation. 😆 This kind of reputation gain is actually more effective and prestigious, which means more enduring than the short-term, instant gratification.
The downsides of being silent about your achievements are…
You'll not receive any immediate flattery. It's all silent. Even though no one talks about it, but the positive image that you exhibit in their minds are cumulative. It's a kind of long-term investment. 😉
Your recognition may never be seen, forever. This is like gambling… becsuse there's no guarantee for the long-term "investment." You presume that they saw it, but they might not. They might be distracted or not be bothered to care about it at all. 😜
However, whenever anyone discovers your achievement by themselves, they would be more impressed and awed than you would show off to them personally.
So what should you do?
It's all about long-term and short-term reputation gain. If you choose humility, the best approach is be yourself. Don't carry any expectations in your mindset, just think it as your own characteristic and you'll eventually get used to resist the temptation of reward.
NB: However, at any point the mindset slips, and you try to vie for attention, no matter how inexplicit it seems to be, it's always intrinsically recognisable.
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One advocates for more gun control (common sense), while another believes in more gun rights. The latter may sound counter-intuitive, but with proper research, I realised their belief is justified.
There is only 156 mass shootings in 2016, and a total deaths of ~800
Unlike the partisan narrative that some try to push, gun violence is less severe than how it is purported. This allows the Conservatives to dismiss statistics as “rubbish” and biased. Most of the gun violence deaths are suicidals, and mental health is a whole new category. Even if gun is banned, and a person determined to self-kill, it won’t stop the person from doing so.
Gun Right advocates also believe that more guns could be more effective in stopping mass shootings. For example, in the event of a rogue actor trying to carry out mass killing in the public, an armed Samaritan could come out to quash the shooter while waiting for police’s arrival. This helps to mitigate casualties and fatal deaths. Here are some real-world cases of aforementioned possibility.
As a result, unless guns are universally banned in the country and rigorously enforced, partial or compromises are ineffective and counterproductive to gun violence homicides or mass shootings.
Nonetheless, Gun Right advocates are also hell-bent on the solution of more guns to reduce gun violence deaths. Opposition would point to the success model of Japan and Australia of eliminating gun deaths by banning it and gun buyback programs to reduce firearms in circulation as their statistics. Unfortunately, Gun Rights also have their own statistics to substantiate their point.
If you look carefully, more guns ownership have no correlation to more gun deaths.
It is just the way of how we present the same piece of information.
Hence, that is why Gun Right advocates think to the contrary of the rest of the world and maybe this phenomenon is caused by the fact that criminals do not voluntarily relinquish their access to firearms and therefore an inadequate gun buyback or restriction program will instead put those law-abiders in greater danger. Gun prohibition is only effective in the long-term.
how many more fucking kids have to die in school because these selfish ass lawmakers don’t see the the importance of making stricter gun laws
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