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INTJs doomed by design?
stlsrr submitted: Hello, Harsh title i know, but its the best to describe what im about to express. Its not long ago i found out about my INTJ character, though to my surprise it explained a lot! The way i acted and reacted to specific situations, my love for solitude, not much talking etc… you probably are aware of these things. But its the first time I was justified by knowing that. The reason was simply, that when you are the ONLY one to act differently (not akward) and EVERY single person you know to judge you and turn against what you are you begin to doubt your self and your ways. Though that is very painful thing to do because deep in you you know you are acting in a “correct” way that asides morality and happines of your self. INTJs love to have it rough, indeed we adore challenge, but this is something way different. Despite i dont wish to write about me self rather to express my ideas i have to say that my life the past few years been … lets just say not to pretty. Both my actions and my luck costed me and made me lose a lot. Thought that’s one of my biggest debates as an INTJ. Did i brought it upon my self or just people behaviors did? In other words cant an INTJ ever avoid this presure about their “inner be” I havent met any other INTJ , the closest i got is an ENTJ ( a Godsent gift!!!) , and because of that i havent the slightest idea how other INTJs deal with their lives. Me , as an INTJ tend to have most of the characterists that make a person of that temperament to be jugded as wierd, loner, sarcastic, selfish and many more, but i Never let that to take me down. There were many times i trully wanted to give in my nature and be sarcastic, snobbish, through my ingenius ways i could be extremly evil and revengeful. But i withhold my self. Due to my evolved sensing and feeling I wanted to like people, to respect, appreciate and accept them for what they are. I was by their side in their darkest hours, i was always looking for the goodness in them…
I’m not sure if that was a mistake but defently people never apreciated the efford and value i gave em. I never asked and gotten nothing in return rather a cold and unfair behavior by them. I dont know what caused that and i dont know who to blame, but i all know is that it made me more cold and less expressive. After two years of extreme conditions i was tired to withhold over and over again and again… I wasnt aware of how i could reacted through a very negative perspective on life. Long story short very outraging. I started to defend my self againt others will to change me. Are INTJs so … violent as in terms of self preservation ? That time i figured that not only people were afraid of me and started to respect me but as well i met my capabilities, something that made me afraid of living through a negative side. So my points out of all the above are: Do INTJs have it rough in their lives? and if so how should they react? Respect towrds others? Or their selves? ( I believe both isnt an acceptable anwser as we are people of edges, the is no shades of grey in our lives, just black and white) Should an INTJ show compassion and patience for what people are or simply people brought it to them selves (Our reaction to their actions)? For the same as we INTJs want to be accepted as we are , i believe we should show some but… im out of alternatives, they just dont accept us. And as the title suggest are INTJs doomed by design? How can a person thats destined to see and fix mistakes to ever find peace and happiness in such a flawed world? Thanks for reading and thanks for any kind of reply.
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I decided to create a masterpost that would help you with what you are struggling with. Hopefully any of the links below will help you! Reminder; You’re going to be okay. What you are going through will pass, just remember to breathe.
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Distractions;
Here are some distractions to help keep your mind occupied so you aren’t too focused on your thoughts.
-Draw something
-This website translates the time into colours.
-Create your own galaxy.
-Play flowing.
-Make a 3D line travel where ever you like.
-Listen to music.
-Calm.
-Ocean mood, do nothing for two minutes.
Sleep issues;
- 8 hour sleep music.
-Rainy mood.
-Meditation.
-Coping with nightmares.
-How to cope with nightmares, 11 steps.
-Calm
-Foods that can affect your sleeping, both positive and negatively.
Uncomfortable with silence;
-Rainy mood.
-10 hours of rain and thunder.
-3 hours of rain and thunder.
-Human heartbeat.
-Rainforest.
-Sound of rain on a tin roof.
-Autumn wind.
-Rain on a tent
-Traffic in the rain.
-Soft traffic.
-Fan.
-Train.
-Simply noise.
-My noise.
-Rainy cafe.
Anxiety;
-How to stop worrying.
-Tips to manage anxiety and stress.
-The 10 best ever anxiety management techniques.
-Self-help strategies for anxiety.
-Helping a friend with anxiety.
-All about worrying.
-8 myths about anxiety.
Sad, angry and depressed/depression;
-“I’m always sad”
-Feeling sad.
-Going through trauma.
-“I’m always angry”.
-Anger management.
-All about anger.
-National helplines and websites.
-Self-help strategies for depression.
-Dealing with depression at work.
-Dealing with depression at school.
Isolation and loneliness;
-Pets and mental health.
-All about loneliness.
-“I feel so alone”
-10 more ideas to help with loneliness.
-How to deal with loneliness.
Self-harm;
-Alternatives to self-harm and distraction techniques.
-146 things to do besides self-harm.
-More alternatives to self-harm.
-Self-harm alternatives.
-How to take care of self-harm wounds/injuries.
-Getting rid of scars.
Addiction;
-How to help a friend with a drug addiction.
-What is addiction?
-All about alcohol and addiction.
-The facts about drug addiction.
Eating disorders;
-Helping a friend with an eating disorder.
-Eating disorder treatments.
-Support services for eating disorders.
-Self-help tips with eating disorders.
-Eating disorder recovery.
-Recovering from an eating disorder.
-100+ reasons to recover.
-Understanding and managing eating disorders.
Dealing with self-hatred;
-3 ways to ease self-loathing.
-How to turn self-hatred into self-compassion.
-Self-hatred resources.
-10 step plan to deal with self-hate.
Suicidal;
-International suicide hotlines (1) (2)
-Preventing suicide.
-Reasons to stay alive.
-Dealing with suicidal thoughts and feelings.
-Coping with suicidal ideation.
Schizophrenia;
-All about schizophrenia.
-Helping a person with schizophrenia.
-Understanding and dealing with schizophrenia.
-Delusions and hallucinations.
OCD;
-Managing your OCD at home.
-Overcoming OCD.
-How to cope with OCD.
-Strategies for dealing with the anxious moments.
Borderline personality disorder;
-Helping someone with BPD.
-All about personality disorders.
-Treatment for BPD.
Abuse;
-Healthy relationships VS abusive relationships.
-Emotional abuse
-Overcoming sexual abuse.
-Hotlines services.
-5 ways to escape an abusive relationship.
-Domestic violence support.
-Signs of an abusive relationship.
-What do to if you’re in an abusive relationship.
-Surviving abuse.
-What you can do if you’re sexual harassed.
-Sexual assault support.
-What to do if you’ve been sexually assaulted or abused.
Bullying;
-How to stand up against bullying.
-How to protect yourself when it comes to cyber bullying.
-How to help stop people bullying you.
Loss and grief;
-How to cope with a suicide of a loved one.
-Grieving for a stranger.
-Common reactions to death.
-Working through grief.
(Other loss and grief)
-Moving away from friends and family.
-Coping with a breakup.
Getting help;
-Seeking help early.
-All about psychological treatments.
-Types of help.
-All about age and confidentiality.
Things you need to remember;
- Don’t stress about being fixed because you’re not broken.
-Remember to remind yourself of your accomplishments. Tell yourself that you’re proud of yourself, even if you’re not.
- This is temporary. You won’t always feel like this.
-You are not alone.
-You are enough.
-You are important.
-You are worth it.
-You are strong.
-You are not a failure,
-Good people exist.
-Reaching out shows strength.
-Breathe.
-Don’t listen to the thoughts that are not helping you.
-Give yourself credit.
-Don’t be ashamed of your emotions, for the good or bad ones.
-Treat yourself the same way as you would treat a good friend.
-Focus on the things you can change.
-Let go of toxic people.
-You don’t need to hide, you’re allowed to feel the way you do.
-Try not to beat yourself up.
-Something is always happening, you don’t want to miss out on what’s going to happen next.
-You are not a bother.
-Your existence is more than your appearance.
-You are smart.
-You are loved.
-You are wanted.
-You are needed.
-Better days are coming.
-Just because your past is dark, doesn’t mean your future isn’t bright.
-You have more potential than you think.
- Your value doesn’t decrease based on someone’s inability to see your worth.
Please remember to look after yourself and know that you are more than worth it and you deserve to be happy. Keep smiling butterflies x
Level 1 / Lesson 2: 잘 and 못
안녕, 친구들! Hi, friends! Welcome to this next lesson! In previous lessons, we learned how to make affirmative and negative sentences. In other words, we know how to say that something is/does something, and that something is not/ does not do something. In this lesson, I want to teach you how to say you are good/bad at something, or that you can/can’t do something. This is a good way to talk about your interests and abilities! Perhaps this could also help you ask for help if you struggle with something :). Let’s start!
잘하다: to do well 못하다: to do badly
Let’s start by taking a look at a verb that ends with 하다, such as 수영하다 (to swim):
수영 = swimming
하다 = to do
Notice how 수영 is essentially a noun–it is the action itself of swimming. It is something you do, hence why 하다 is attached to it. You are doing the swimming, if that makes sense. You can even say 수영을 하다 to mean the same thing–the object particle here suggests are are doing an action of some sort.
So how can you say that you are good at swimming? It’s pretty simple: just take the noun for swimming, 수영, and attach 잘하다 to it. Don’t forget to conjugate 잘하다 also!
수영 + 잘하다 - 다 + 여요 = 수영 잘 해요 = I / you / he / she / they swim(s) well
This can also be translated to “I [or any noun] can swim.”
Conversely, we can use the verb 못하다 the same way to mean “I cannot swim” or “I am bad at swimming”:
수영 + 못하다 - 다 + 여요 = 수영 못 해요 = I cannot swim
Let’s look at another example using the verb 공부하다 (to study). Here, 공부 would be the noun “a study” or “studying” Again, you can think of it as “to do studying,” if that makes sense. Thus, you can use the same formula to say you are good or bad at studying:
공부 + 잘하다 - 다 + 여요 = 공부 잘 해요 = I am good at studying
공부 + 못하다 - 다 + 여요 = 공부 못 해요 = I am bad at studying
Here’s another example: 이해하다 (to understand)
이해 = understanding / comprehension
이해 잘 해요 = I understand / I understand well
이해 못 해요 = I do not understand
Something that may be useful for y’all is to say which languages you can and cannot speak. For example:
한국어를 잘 해요 = I can speak Korean / I speak Korean well
한국어를 못 해요 = I cannot speak Korean / I do not speak Korean well
영어를 잘 해요 = I can speak English / I speak English well
영어를 못 해요 = I cannot speak English / I do not speak English well
*Note that although the verb 말하다 means to speak, we just use the verb 하다 to talk about speaking languages, since it’s inferred that the action in question is “speaking.”
Not too confusing I hope :). But there are many verbs that do not end in 하다. So how are we supposed to say that we can / cannot do those actions? It’ actually perhaps a little simpler than above! Let’s look at the verb (to go).
Simply add 잘 or 못 in front of 가다 to say you can or cannot go:
잘 가요 = I can go (this is what it could possibly translate to, but this sentence is usually used to mean “goodbye”–it could be translated as “go well”)
못 가요 = I can’t go (perhaps your parents won’t let you go to a party or something lol)
Here’s another example: 부르다 (to call / to sing). In this case, we’ll say it means “to sing.”
잘 불러요 = I sing well
못 불러요 = I cannot sing
Interestingly, there’s another word that means “to sing”: 노래하다. Let’s give this one a try too, shall we? It works the same way as the previously 하다 verbs do:
노래 = song
노래 잘 해요 = I can sing / I sing well
노래 못 해요 = I cannot sing / I sing badly
There are also some verbs that look like this:
춤을 추다 = to dance
춤 = a dance (noun)
추다 = to dance (verb)
In this case, I don’t think you can say “춤을 하다.” You should just say “춤을 춰요” to mean “I dance.”
Similarly to how we put 잘 or 못 right before a verb for the 하다 verbs, we can do the same for verbs like these:
춤을 잘 춰요 = I can dance / I dance well
춤을 못 춰요 = I cannot dance / I dance poorly
Let’s look at another example with the verb 꿈을 꾸다 (to dream)
꿈 = dream (noun)
꾸다 = to dream (action)
꿈을 잘 꿔요 = I dream well
꿈을 못 꿔요 = I cannot dream / I don’t dream well
(Not really sure when you’d say something like this lol. Maybe when you’re describing whether you had a good or bad dream? I just wanted to use this for the sake of showing the grammar lol.)
I think that’s about it for this lesson! Hope it helped you out! If you study hard, you’ll be able to proudly say “한국어를 잘 해요” one day! As always, questions are welcome, so ask away if you have any! Thanks for studying with me and see you later!! 안녕!