as a system, we agree on nothing, except for one thing. *yelling, in any form that can not be obviously seen as playful (and even caution on that)* is never okay if not behind closed and locked doors, and even then, we prefer not to yell in any capacity as it only harms others- especially when internal arguing occurs. we’ve seen what discourse between people, especially those you love, does to a person from a first-hand perspective.
We've come out to roughly three parties about our plurality in which we were in a covert space. 1. Our immediate family. They didn't take it too well- Well, they kind of did. It's just that they didn't really understand and made several hurtful remarks and eventually straight-out claimed that we were faking. So, I think either way it probably would've turned out like this, due to the nature of my family, but to perhaps recommend more research on plurality (EVEN MORE. We still recommended them but it was less direct), might've changed that outcome. 2. One of our closer online friends-- They brushed us off. I have to admit, the one who came out about it was extremely rushed about it, and it was definitely a mistake on our part. We eventually grew apart. I believe if we had more experience in that department could explain more thoroughly, it probably could've turned out different. 3. One of our real life friends- This one was recent, as you saw us yapping about it. It went very well. We took a moment aside to explain our situation, and they asked questions and we answered them. They also said they'd do some research on their own time? (What did I do to deserve you........) Overall, for those who wish to come out to others, it's very important to be completely open to questions, suggest research in their time if they wish to learn more, explain clearly and directly about what it is (especially since a lot of people may be completely unaware of its nature other than the typical stereotypes), so making sure to knock those out of the park are very important. - blurry
question 77: if you've ever come out to anyone as plural, how did you go about it? is there anything you'd change about how you did it? do you have any advice for others looking to do the same?
system protip: if trying to keep track of your switches and fragments feels impossible and is driving you crazy, stop doing it. or at the very least dont put as much weight into making it perfect. you dont need to track every switch, you dont need every fragment logged. sometimes its easier to just exist as a system than drive yourself up the wall trying to micromanage everything about your complex disorder
from system to system.. how to unblur… in the past two or three months we’ve had clear knowledge of whose fronting a total of thrice… please i can’t do this anymore😭 -blurry
You're going about your day, doing the same things that you must have done hundreds of times before in almost the same way... And then you suddenly feel uncomfortable.
Welp, there goes your productivity. Now at least 30% of your focus will be held by the thorough investigation of what the heck triggered whose reaction because of what past experiences.
thius..... some of us may be uncomfortable with doubles at times when they're just getting used to everything but im not stopping a guy from existing.........
fictive culture is worrying if your mutuals are okay with doubles
we are always cool with doubles
the random urge to run into the woods bc we think we can survive and it’s better than here is always a fun one.
Here's your daily reminder that telling someone they're faking is a classist and ableist action as not all doctors are unbiased, and not all unbiased doctors are affordable
shoutout to the headmate who does things that their headmates can’t do anymore in their place because it’s too difficult or triggering for them. love you all out there. you do a lot of work for your system. <3
People often tell me that they feel they're disrespectful when they ask questions about systems and I'm like
ITS BETTER TO ASK A QUESTION THAN BE IGNORANT FOREVER IF IM UNCOMFORTABLE WITH SOMETHING I'MMA JUST TELL YOU
wait that ISNT what it means???
Parents think it's a sin for their children to disobey them. Parents think it's okay to assault their children in order to instill the fear of God in them.
Those parents are prime examples of using the lord's name in vain. But they don't want their children to know that. So they instead invent some bullshit definition.
(they/them)disordered systemi don't care what you label yourself as, it's not my business. just keep the fucking discourse off this blog.
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