7 Points And Red Flags To Watch Out For Any New Submissive

Where did I can find those doms? And what should I search for here on trumbl?

7 points and red flags to watch out for any new submissive

I am going to elaborate here as i am hearing horror stories from new, inexperienced submissives...On Tumblr...you are probably looking at just 30% are genuine Doms. So its all about being patient...the one issue is that new or inexperienced subs will be so eager and so excited to feel being dominated that they will just partner up with the first Sign of being wanted. You cannot do that. Remember these points and potential red flags

1, Do not just send pictures when they demand it (Genuine subs do not ask or demand )

2, Ask why they are not revealing who they are, with no signs of any identity you have no idea who you are talking too...how can you respect and trust someone you can't even see?

3, Whatever they want to know about you...you have the right to know about them..so do not be afraid to ask.

4, Are they online only certain times of the day? Any unexplained routine of this can possibly mean they have certain other commitments to others

5, In pre talks of becoming a submissive which can take from several days to several weeks, discussions should involve Aftercare, non sexual domination, safe words, your soft and hard limits with any boundaries...all with your participation and your requirements!

6, Not all Dom styles will be compatible with your submission...for instance..no matter what anyone says...DDLG does not pair up with sadism. So keep this in mind.

7, Always trust your gut instinct...not your head (brains overthink) not your heart (hearts are fragile and break easily) Always your gut instinct...if your gut says something feels wrong? It is!

Please reblog and share this info to make sure to protect submissives.

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