Getting Myself Together

Things I Learned In Research

I only finished my first research project out of many, but I already learned some game-changing things that I wish I knew earlier.

1. It’s okay to mess up. In fact, it should be encouraged (within reason). You learn so many more intimate details about your work from mistakes than from successes. PCRs fail even when you’re careful, and animal models don’t behave like they’re supposed to. Undergrad labs can make you feel stupid when your experiment doesn’t work, but in research, mistakes happen all the time. Document them and learn from them. 

2. There’s a lot of waiting around. Experiments can be slow. Progress in your project can be even slower. Manage your time between experiments so that it’s not wasted; read, write a chapter, scribble some ideas, or just close your eyes and think. All time is valuable. 

3. If you can figure out a new way to do something, do it. There might not be a formal protocol you have to follow. If you think of an efficient way to observe something, go for it. Practice thinking outside the box. 

4. There’s a lot less rules than you think there are. Of course, follow lab safety rules. But the lab is a resource- use it. You don’t have to walk on eggshells somewhere you belong. 

5. Stay true to your findings. This isn’t an undergrad laboratory course. You’re looking at novel stuff here. Don’t play up or fake your data to impress your supervisor. That helps no one- tell it like it is. Believe in your work. 

6. Your lab mates are not here to criticize you. They are your colleagues and mentors- ask them for help if you need it. Your work is important to their work too. You matter just as much as them. 

I can’t possibly list all the things I learned, because this research experience has changed how I think in such integral ways, but here are a few anyway. I’m sure this is only the beginning. 

Feel free to add anything that you learned!

You're welcome.

you know how you can feel yourself starting to develop a crush on someone but it’s still very faint so you kind of feel like an old man standing on a hilltop, sniffing the air like ”ah yes… there might be a storm coming”

The Ultimate Law of Assumption Guide 🦋

Mental diet - only thinking thoughts and only having (inner) conversations that align with your desired reality.

How to trust that your negative thoughts are powerless: by understanding that your thoughts would cease to exist without you. You are not your thoughts, rather, you are merely the observer. If you have a negative thought, simply allow yourself to acknowledge its presence. Don’t try to fight it as doing so will only perpetuate it. Distract yourself by doing something you enjoy and it will dissipate in due time.

The psychological lifespan of an emotion is 90 seconds. If you experience a negative thought or emotion beyond this timeframe, you are the sole perpetrator via your thoughts and inner conversations.

Everything you experience is a part of the bridge of events. In the grand scheme of things, your undesirable circumstances are irrelevant. Your desires are a promise and if you truly accepted this, you wouldn’t allow your circumstances to sidetrack you.

Reasons you have yet to receive your desire: 1.) you think you’re keeping a mental diet but you’re still having negative thoughts disguised as imaginary arguments 2.) you’re constantly discussing your undesired circumstances and/or how you don't have your manifestation 3. You’re assuming you’re doing something wrong (always assume you’re doing everything right).

Where you place your attention is where you will see results. Where focus goes, energy flows.

As you--through the medium of imagination--assume a state of consciousness, the state begins to clothe itself in form, but you must be faithful to that state. You cannot oscillate from state to state—you must patiently persist in your desired state until it becomes an objective fact.

Revision: There is no inevitable permanence in anything. The only reason the past and present continue to exist is because they are sustained through your imagining them on some level or another. A radical transformation of life is always possible through man’s revision of the undesirable aspects of it for the past—although it is experienced in this world—dates back to imagination. To revise an undesirable scenario, simply imagine something more magnificent in its place; imagine it as you would have liked it to be for “man and his past are one continuous structure”. “The past and the present form the whole structure of man; they are carrying all of its contents with it. Any alteration of content will result in an alteration in the present and future.” and “If the past is recreated into the present, so will the revised past be recreated into the present.”

In consciousness / imagination, you already have what you want but you must trust in your imagination as it is more real than anything you see without (aka the 3D). Stop looking for evidence in the 3D for the most common cause of failure is failure to live in the end: “If you judge after appearances, you will continue to be enslaved by the evidence of your senses.”. Continue to possess it within and its possession without is inevitable.

Jealousy: Whenever you experience jealousy, remember that another person's success does not equate to your failure or lack. Positive things happening to others should serve as your reminder that good things are also available for you. A success for one person is a success for all as we are all one and connected.

Obsession: obsession is the result of a deep rooted insecurity and/or an overall poor concept of self. If you are obsessive over something--especially a person--you have fallen into the illusion that you must have this thing to be happy. You have forgotten that you are the only one who can create this feeling of fulfillment and happiness for yourself. Identifying what it is you believe your desire will fulfill within you and creating that feeling for yourself will allow your desire to manifest in a swifter and easier manner.

How to become the ideal version of yourself: Ask yourself what that version of you looks like; What do they do? What does their life look like? Now all you must do to become that version of yourself is think like that version.

Your desires are not greater than you. You are the only one who gives your desire purpose / value. Your desire is merely a thing…an inanimate object with no life separate from you. The only reason it seems so elusive is because you have placed it on a pedestal. Take your desire it the pedestal and stop treating it as though it’s greater than you. Your desire would literally cease to exist without you…not the other way around.

Whenever you experience negative thoughts: Remember that you have free will—you can choose to counteract those negative thoughts by choosing positive, constructive thoughts instead.

Stop checking the 3D to see if it’s conforming for when you do this, you’re attempting to change your outer reality instead of persisting in your inner reality. In other words, you’re dwelling in a state of lack rather than a state of wish fulfilled (abundance).

If your desire feels unattainable: if your desire feels unattainable, it’s simply due to your predominant focus being on doubts and failure rather than faith and success. Fortunately, repetition in your desired story can fix this.

Simple way to ignore the 3D: by focusing only on what you want.

What you desire is already done / created / true in another, parallel reality. Hence, you’re not ‘creating’ anything, you’re merely shifting to the reality in which your desire is already a present fact. All you must do to align yourself with your desired reality is mentally live there now .

Stop trying to rationalize everything by worrying about the how. Think only of your end goal and trust that the ‘how’ will work itself out.

Your inner dialogue = affirmations. Affirmations aren’t always prefaced with “I am” for your inner conversations are also affirmations. The inner conversations you’re having with yourself and other people are also reflecting in your outer world.

Quantum physics states that when 2 or more particles (or people) interact, their states remain linked regardless of distance, thus disproving the illusion of separation. Thus, every affirmation regarding your SP must reach them.

If you feel your manifestation is taking too long: your predominant focus is on the lack of your desire (the 3D) rather than its presence (imagination / 4D). Persist in your desired reality within and it has no choice but to appear without.

Despite your persistence, your 3D looks the way it does as a result of the state you fell into for it is merely reflecting your old states (hence, the time lag), but without your awareness, it will cease to be. In other words, refrain from thinking or paying attention to your undesirable circumstances and they will cease to exist. Despite what your 3D may look like now, your new thoughts (state) will shortly catch up.

Because your state produces thoughts in alignment with your desires, use your thoughts as a tool to measure which state you’re predominantly occupying.

Disregard any possibility other than the one you want and believe, no matter what. As long as you allow an alternative outcome to be an option, it will always remain an option. Choose to drive anything other than what you want out of your consciousness and saturate your mind only with that which you desire.

It doesn’t matter how you feel. Keep affirming / visualizing / whichever technique you prefer and your feelings will automatically change for your thoughts create your feelings.

State = thoughts, emotions, beliefs, attitude, reactions, and impulses. To change your state, experience in imagination that which constitutes your desired state.

EIYPO - what you feel and believe to be true about yourself and others will be reflected in those around you. If you feel insignificant and unworthy, people are going to reflect that by treating you as such. This is exactly why you’re encouraged to focus on your self concept rather than SP: when you improve your self concept, everyone (including your SP) will reflect that. If you feel worthy and attractive, your SP has no choice but to reflect that by treating you as such. People are merely messengers revealing to you what you believe to be true about yourself and others. If people are pointing something out, it’s because you are heavily focused on it. Think and speak about yourself in the way you want to be perceived by others.

How to stop waiting / checking for results: Think (affirm) as though your desires were already yours. Your desired reality is the only thing you should be focused on.

The moment you have a desire, it is done. The delay in the outer world is simply the orchestration of the people, places, and things necessary for the realization of your desire.

Once you start feeling natural / nonchalant about your desire, that’s when you know it’s close.

How to get rid of a third party: simply stop thinking about them. What you remove your attention from will eventually dissipate.

Stop giving attention to things you don’t want. If you don’t want it, it doesn’t deserve your time or energy.

How to get rid of resistance: The only way to get rid of resistance is through repetition & persistence in the new story.

By expecting / assuming something, you are only perpetuating it. If you expect / assume people always leave you on read, that will continue to be the case

To change your SP: if you want your SP to change, all you must do is change the way you think of and perceive them. If you’re annoyed with the way your SP constantly ghosts you, stop focusing on the ‘fact’ that they constantly ghost you and instead, focus on the version of them that’s communicative and loving.

How to let go of the old story: stop re-affirming it and stop allowing your old thoughts to creep in.

What to do if you’re not seeing movement: If you’re not seeing any movement, you’re simply focused on the lack of movement. This is a tell-tale sign that you’re living in the 3D (physical, perceivable reality) as opposed to the 4D (imagination).

Consistent thoughts = consistent results. Inconsistent thoughts = inconsistent results.

Think and speak as though you already had your desire and saturate your mind with that story. That should be the dominant, if not only thing, playing in your mind.

As eager as you may be to vent about it, repeating your old story isn’t going to make you feel better, but changing your thoughts to that of the wish fulfilled will.

You’re not creating, attracting, wishing, or hoping for your desire to manifest—you’re simply entering the state / reality in which it’s already a present fact. Every reality already exists now and all you must do to shift to / experience your desired reality is persistently dwell there.

What happens when two people are manifesting the same thing: trust that will win every single time. Your thoughts are the only thing that can allow you to ‘lose’ your desire to someone else.

Why things go ‘backwards’ : The only reason why things may go ‘backwards’ (aka why you’re not seeing progress or why your circumstances may he even worse circumstances than they were before) is because your thoughts and focus aren’t as persistent as they once were—when you were seeing steady progress .

“Die to your former self by yielding to other (favorable) states”. In order ‘die’ to your former self, you must enter a new state of consciousness, which will inevitably result in completely new life circumstances.

Your primary goal when manifesting shouldn’t be to gain something without (the 3D) but for your mental state to be aligned with your end goal. Rather than looking towards the 3D for ‘proof’ or ‘evidence’, you should only be looking within: Are you thoughts in alignment with your end goal? Do your inner conversations match those with the state of the wish fulfilled? Is your dominant focus on your desired reality rather than your current circumstances?

Persistence is the only way to get rid of resistance.

Rather than constantly focusing on the 3D, just persist. It’s okay if you don’t believe it or if the 3D is triggering you, but you must keep going. Remember that the 3D is irrelevant for everything is conforming behind the scenes: “An assumption, though false, if persisted in will harden into fact.”

When a desire comes upon you, immediately accept that it is done. It is already yours and God is nudging you to experience it.

Because the light of God within you is so strong and overpowering, your negative thoughts dislike you as much as you dislike them.

Your negative thoughts only have power over you if you believe them. If you can remain the mere observer of those thoughts and replace them with better, more positive thoughts, they will eventually dwindle and die down. Even if they do resurface, your awareness of who you really are will be so strong that they will no longer bother you.

Persist in reminding yourself that you are God. Anytime you’re feeling down or powerless, ask yourself, “What would God be thinking right now?”, “How would God act?” and do just that. Whatever you affirm to be true for yourself is exactly how your reality will unfold. Until you create a new story for yourself, you will only perpetuate your old, undesirable reality.

What you desire is already yours and there is nothing for you to do but accept your desires. Accept and feel the joy of fulfillment. Because your desires are meant to be, there is no reason to affirm the opposite.

Through your desires, you are able to catch a glimpse into your future that starts the moment you have that desire.

in your 20’s find a balance between hustle & rest. you don’t need to have a love life or a soulmate figured out. go travel the world. battle your demons. set up a business, find people who value your heart & yours will attract. don’t live in the past, you have so much more to see

This is one of the days when I can't sleep in peace because there's a lot of things in my mind that I can't help but have a conversation with myself.

I know am hurt. I want to be petty and complain.

But I'm also trying to forgive by giving myself reason on why I should.

What I've learned throughout my 20's

1. Don't tell your family everything. it will backfire.

2. Don't tell your closest friends everything. it will backfire.

3. Never tell anyone about how much you have in your account. that's only for you and the bank to know.

4. Work hard in silence.

5. Don't chase men. Chase your goals.

6. Don't be too kind. not everyone has your heart.

7. There will never be anyone like you.

8. Read as many books as you can. Knowledge is power.

9. Wear sunscreen every single day. your skin will thank you later on.

10. Prioritize solitude time. your soul needs it.

11. Try to eat at home more often, the food is surrounded by your own energy.

12. Don't wake up to your phone screen. What are you going to get out of that?

13. Just like binge eating, binge watching is also not healthy. Go live!

14. Water is your best friend.

15. Education will never leave you.

16. Say how you feel once. and only once. if you find yourself repeating the same things, they don't care.

17. Everyday is a special occasion, because you're alive.

18. You know yourself better than anyone ever will. So who cares about those who judge you, their opinions aren't paying you.

19. Abusive men don't change. they just change their tactics.

20. It's better to say no than to feel uncomfortable.

21. Social media is a commercial.

22. If you lost yourself, you will find a way back.

23. Listen to your inner child. She needs you and you need her.

24. Love who you are no matter what state you are in.

Source - exhalefierceness

A time to weep & a time to laugh.

A time to get & a time to lose.

A time to break down & a time to build up.

A time to keep & a time to cast away.

A time to love & a time to hate.

A time of war & a time of peace.

🍂🌻🍁🌼☀️🍂🌻🍁🌼☀️🍂🌻🍁🌼☀️🍂

DON’T DESPISE THE SEASON YOU ARE IN!

Public speaking tips

…and tips for giving presentations

Today I want to share the things I learnt to make public speaking easier. Before I start, I want to say I’m naturally okay at talking to larger amounts of people. If you have severe social anxiety, these tips might not be for you and you might not find them that helpful. That’s okay! Work on your health and don’t feel bad if public speaking isn’t your thing.

Mistakes are okay and expected -You will fumble your words or forget some things. You will stutter or stay silent for a bit too long. You will notice a typo in your presentation. It’s okay and your audience won’t care. They won’t even notice most of the time. Don’t get consumed by your mistake. If it’s big, apologise and correct yourself. If it’s small, let go and continue with you speech/presentation.

Loosen up -Even the most serious talks and presentations are not THAT serious. Loosen up, joke a little bit (keep it in appropriate amounts of course), make fun of yourself a bit. This isn’t life or death situation and your audience will appreciate human approach 

They’re all just people -This follows up the previous point. Your audience is consisted of people who will understand when you make a mistake. People who want to see a pleasant human being on the other side. Large groups of people may look intimidating but they have the same thoughts and worries like you do. They will understand your feelings and mistakes

Move -Use your hands, be expressive! It creates a better connection with your audience. Also make sure to change the tone of your voice accordingly. Monotone speech won’t hold anyone’s attention

Look at your audience -Choose people to look at. Preferably people who are listening to you and are responsive, so you can feel the communication. Also, looking at individuals makes them listen and pay more attention

Loud and clear -Speak loudly and clearly. Make sure your voice carries well in the room and everyone can hear you well enough

Don’t read or recite -This one is especially important for presentations. Keep your notes or presentation simple. Reading or reciting things becomes boring very quickly and you will lose the attention of your audience

Don’t be afraid of pauses -People often make funny noises when they get stuck, simply to avoid being silent. Don’t be afraid of silence! It’s okay, take a pause to catch a breath or to remember a fact. Sometimes pauses can even work as a great dramatic tool

Know your topic -People have questions and that can be scary. Make sure you feel ready for those questions. Know what the fancy words in your presentation mean. Know a little more than you talk about. And if you don’t know the answer? Don’t panic, apologise, admit that you don’t know and offer a follow up on the subject later

Admit emotion -You can say that you’re nervous! You can admit your uncertainty. It’s okay! Once again: your audience is full of people who will relate to you

Get to know the room if you can -Familiar environment will make you feel better and a little more confident. Visit the room if you don’t know it already, if you can

Time will go by quickly -Before you start it seems really daunting and scary but it will go by and you’ll be done before you even notice! You’ll be okay, I promise. Even if it goes poorly, you’ll forget it eventually. It does not matter forever

I hope I helped and if you have more tips and adice, feel free to add!