Cry Bully - Blog Posts

“Men have had their say for a thousand years!” So take a ticket and get to the back of the queue.

A thousand years? Well, as a thirty something year old, that doesn’t mean much to me.

So now what?

Am I supposed to stand here holding a ticket, watching men and boys sink into the ground around me; to be neglected, mistreated, and killed?

Am I to sit patiently in the waiting room of life, as boys continue to fall behind, and drop out of school?

How far are we supposed to swing the pendulum - before enough is enough?

And when does ‘equality’, really become revenge?

If it is true, that “men have always had their say”, then why can’t we talk about these issues?

Why does discussion in this space, so often result in brittle rebukes of ‘misogyny’?

Why do academics researching male victims of domestic abuse, so often get death threats?

Why do attempts to open centres for men and boys often lead to picketing, and shrill cries for cancellation?

Why do well meaning attempts to post about these things result in shadow bans, deletion, and silliness in the dms?

Why do so many question, or hypothesise about my sexual history, with whines of ‘you sound like an Incel’ and ‘virgin!’

And It’s not just me.

So many of my followers message me about losing friends or family as a result of sharing my content, many more say they have been subjected to needless abuse and bullying too.

When we talk about ‘power and control’, the image many paint is a shady monolith of rich white men atop a high table, tightening a gag onto society.

But really, who is in the dm’s harassing you?

Who is standing, arms crossed, disapprovingly?

Who is whining, crying, and stomping their feet, hogging the lime light and holding the microphone?

Who is really controlling the conversation?

Is it time we talked about the cry bully playbook?

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CDC / NISVS: https://www.cdc.gov/violenceprevention/pdf/nisvs/NISVSReportonIPV_2022.pdf

UNESCO Boys in School: https://www.unesco.org/en/gender-equality/education/boys

Mens Health: https://tinyurl.com/yutz3wwv

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If you get to shout down and silence everybody else into focusing only on your stuff, or even make them self-censor out of wariness of saying anything at all, you're not marginalized or "oppressed," you're the ruling overclass. Who really has the privilege and power?

The people who have normalized silencing others, with no fear and no repercussions, are the privileged class.