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10 Tips on How to Set Up A Threesome

Threesomes can be between people of any combination of genders, and not every person involved in the threesome needs to penetrate or be penetrated. All that counts is that three people are present, willing, and into making each other feel good.

Here are 10 tips on how to set up a threesome.

1. Figure Out What You Want

If you are single, you should take time to make clear what you are looking for. What type of threesome do you fantasize about? Do you want to have a threesome with strangers, acquaintances or close friends? What are your boundaries? What are looking to experience?

If you are in a relationship, you first need to sit down together and discuss openly, honestly and clearly what you two are looking for. Make sure you two are on the same page and know what makes you both are comfortable.

2. Use A Threesome Dating App

There are many apps for couples and singles who are looking for threesomes. 3Fun is specially developed toward non-monogamy dating. You can create a profile and write clearly about who you are and what you are looking for. Many couples and singles found like-minded 3some partners here.

3. Go to A Much

A munch is a nonsexual, social hangout for people interested in BDSM. At a munch, you have the opportunity to meet and flirt with people who are likely to be interested in sex outside the straight, monogamous norm. 

4. Proposition A Stranger at A Bar

If you are feeling particularly brave, you can go try to meet someone out in the world at a bar. This is probably the most challenging, so I'd go with low expectations and think of it as a fun couple's adventure.

5. Ask A Friend

Asking someone who is already in your life can be tricky because you run the risk of ruining the relationship by changing the dynamics. So it's good to make sure it is someone you feel very capable of doing repairs with or someone who is more of a distant acquaintance.

6. Go to A Sex Party

Sex parties could also be a good place to meet threesome partners, both as a single and as part of a couple.

7. Employee A Sex Worker

Using the services of a sex worker is ideally suited to generally monogamous couples who are curious about having a threesome but who would like to maintain strong boundaries around their relationship. If you employ a professional, you don't run the risk of emotions becoming entangled. You also respect the third party by not drawing them into the potential aftermath of the threesome.

8. Make Sure All Three People Are on The Same Page

Whatever way you go about choosing someone or two other people to have a threesome with, the most important thing is to make sure that everyone is in agreement about the terms of your encounter or encounters. Also make sure to establish that your prospective partners are positive about using protection, and then stick to it.

9. Set The Vibe

Set the vibe and make sure that you have enough space! The more comfortable the settings (physically and emotionally), the easier the flow of making the threesome happen will be. Also: Don't get too drunk beforehand.

10. Check in with Each Other

Make sure that all parties involved are on board with a shared vision of the evening, and remember that you can back out at any time, even if you feel like your partner (or other threesome participants) will be disappointed.

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