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This is so important and relevant (in general but also for me personally in many relationships). The way I try to explain it to myself/others is like if we didn't have this constant online access, this would be much more easily recognuzed. Like if you called your friend on the phone, if they didn't answer your response would be oh they're probably busy (even if that's busy with personal/fun activities) but the problem arises when they have not picked up a call from you for days or weeks at a time with no explanation. Then it would make complete sense to consider if they were ok, be hurt, or be more insistent on contacting them.
Continuing this same example. If they didn't pick up the phone once and the next time you speak to them you say hey what was going on when I called you at x time, and if they continued to seemingly ignore your calls for days only occasionally picking up etc it would be the time to seek reassurance (totally valid and often needed). But it would become tiring, unnecessary, harmful, etc to go over to someone's house in a panic every single time they don't pick up the phone, (i.e extreme distress/reassurance seeking every single time, maybe multiple times a day). It would be reasonable then for that person to be depleted or even extremely anxious in this relationshipjj
People don’t owe you their downtime! And I don’t mean this in a harsh way, but in a “quit breaking your own heart” way.
It’s so easy to see a friend “active” and reblogging on tumblr, or maybe making a status update on Facebook and feel hurt they haven’t replied to our messages.
Different things take different energy. And someone being “online” but not actively talking to you does not mean they no longer love or care about you.