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6 months ago

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Music

I think one of the most underrated topics when it comes to self-improvement is music. I mean it. No one really talks about it. And not in the “listen to classical/jazz music, go to the opera, become a cultured individual” way. In the “stop listening to music all the time” way.

And before jumping at conclusions, hear me out.

I am and I’ve always been a fan of music. I don’t have a type - I listen to everything that I like. I had so many phases - Taylor Swift, Ariana Grande, Justin Bieber, kpop, depressive music (let’s keep it a secret ok). You name it, I’ve been there.

For about two years, I listened to music nonstop. Not in the “music is my life” way, but in the “let’s open spotify while I’m getting dressed up” kind of way. I was listening to music in the morning, after I woke up. I was listening while I was doing homework, while I was getting ready, while I was eating. All the time. And I liked it - it’s not like I was scrolling, right?

I only noticed everything two weeks ago, when I was in an awful mental state. I was feeling like the pressure was too much, like the world was too much. I couldn’t hear my thoughts. Why? Partly because of the music that I was listening to.

Music blocks the outside noise. It is an escaping mechanism, much like social media or watching series. It makes you numb, or happy, or sad, according to the lyrics and the beat. In the end, music is content.

Let’s get back to the story. After that, I decided to search about the effect music (with lyrics, especially) has on people, and here, loves, is what I discovered:

Dopamine Desensitization: Excessive listening to highly stimulating music can lead to dopamine over-release, causing temporary pleasure desensitization, where one needs more intense stimuli to feel pleasure. Eventually, you may find it harder to feel good without intense music. Over time, this can feel almost addictive.

Dependency on Music: As many people do (and I am no exception), you might be tempted to use music as a coping mechanism, a way to escape the reality or regulate your stress levels. Over the time, though, this dependency may hinder emotional self-regulation and negatively impact your mental resilience.

False Cure for Loneliness: Listening to music is often perceived as a “cure” for loneliness. You’ve probably experienced it. Songs are relatable - they talk about love, family, trauma and all that - and this the reason for the overconsumption. And loneliness, as we know, is the no. 1 cause of depression and mental illnesses. The thing is, which I hope you are aware of, the only cure for loneliness is meeting other people, socializing. Music makes you think everything is getting better. Well, no. Everything is getting worse.

Mood Manipulation: As well as music boosts your mood…it can always take it down. Let’s say you got a bad grade. You listen to depressive music. It feels good for a moment, right? Your feelings are validated. But then the trauma and the mommy issues come to light and that bad grade leads a feeling tsunami. Music won’t let you live in the present. Wake up, love.

Internalizing Negative Messages: As a note to no. 4, humans tend to mimic everything they see and understand. So when a song is telling you that no one will miss you when you’re gone or some other bs, you believe it, huh? Because you are human. You’ve heard of the subconscious mind - find some other posts about it and read (I don’t have any, but there are plenty on tumblr - you can even find articles so dive in).

Overstimulation. Your brain is fried. Why, love, why? You need music 24/7? No, what you need is a walk in the nature and a therapy session, not living in a world inside of your head. When you can’t hear your thoughts and all you can hear are the lyrics…it’s time to stop. Please.

Note: by any means, I am not telling you to quit listening to music. What I want you to understand is that you have to live the present and be aware of your own feelings, without being influences by the break-up song of whatever singer. What I did after I noticed all this: I switched to classical music. It rebuilt my focus, it helps me stay calm and relieve stress and I don’t have to deal with the drama. Now, feel free to choose your own path. Or even keep listening to music if you think you can manage it - but stay present. I’m telling you once again.

I hope this helps! Rya

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8 months ago

Dark femininity literally transformed my life. You can call it what you want, it's simply about embracing your darkness, letting go of "being too much" or not being "perfect". It's about setting boundaries. It's giving yourself permission to be authentic, passionate, beautifully imperfect and raw, falling shamelessly in love with yourself, and most important of all, being fiercely protective of yourself (your inner child, your vulnerability, your softness).

Ladies, you need that edge, that boundary. Without it, you're an overflowing ocean that can be easily scattered or exploited. The only way to preserve your softness is learn how to be your own guardian first and foremost; because it's not possible nor healthy to always depend on others to do it for you.


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9 months ago

What you're currently searching is in real life, not on the phone.


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8 months ago

🎀🤍KNOW YOUR WORTH🤍🎀

🎀🤍KNOW YOUR WORTH🤍🎀

🤍" In order to be valuable to others , we need to be valuable to ourselves first " -The Wizard Liz

🎀To develop self-worth, you must realize that it is not extrinsic but intrinsic. It was present since the day you were born . You will not find your self-worth in other people or their opinions. Self-worth is innate , it comes from within.

🤍Your value does not come from your status or followers . It does not come from anything that is external , it is always intrinsic. You have control over your self-worth. Nothing or no one can make you feel bad without your consent. We all have the same level of intrinsic value , the problem is not everybody sees it.

🎀When God created you , he did not put your value in your grades , skin color , in size of your nose or flesh . He put your value in your spirit. Your spirit was made in the image of God. Understand how valuable you are , you were created in the image of an eternal , infinite and omnipotent God.

🤍If you do not acknowledge your worth , you will sell yourself short. If you start valuing yourself , others will start valuing yourself. If you know your worth or value , you will have high -standards . You will not be desperate, you will be highly-selective with who you allow in your inner circle and life. Don't allow everyone to have access to you or your energy.

🎀Never try to find your self-worth in other people's opinions . If you allow other people's opinions control how you feel , you are giving them your power. You will become their puppet . Be strong in yourself , know your worth and never settle for less. Never ever make your value go down because of anyone or anything.

🤍You matter , you are important and precious. It does not matter who made you feel small . You have the power to make your confidence go back up. Start acting like you matter because you do !

🎀The Universe wants you to know your worth , If you ignore the Universe's message, it will continue to be louder. You will continue to attract people who will mistreat you and treat you as if you are less than them.

🤍If I crush or beat 20$ , it would still have it's inherent value. Right ? You must know your value and not try to find your value in others or their opinions or how they treat you. How others treat you is a reflection of them , it is never personal.

🎀To cultivate a sense of worth, shift your focus to your strengths , believe in yourself and be clear about your values - have boundaries for yourself , speak up for yourself and find ways to validate yourself. You can also use affirmations to develop self-worth. Tell yourself, " I know my self-worth " .

🤍Never underestimate your self- worth . Know and own your self-worth . Refuse to be treated any lower than what you deserve. You are worthy of love and happiness . You deserve the best life !

🎀🤍KNOW YOUR WORTH🤍🎀

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6 months ago

getting my nails done, keeping my room clean, waking up @ 5am, eating yogurt bowls, listening to affirmative music, smelling like vanilla, taking care of my appearance, setting boundaries, smiling more, achieving all my goals...


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6 months ago
Hello Bunnies, Welcome To My Blog!

Hello bunnies, welcome to my blog!

In this page you'll find everything about how to improve yourself and how to be the best version of yourself in all aspects of your life.

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Some things about me:

My name is Sthefanny

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I am Brazilian

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I love the wellness world, coffee, journaling, manifesting, pinterest, fashion and so many other hobbies.


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