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Since joining Tumblr, I’ve met a lot of young queer people. Look, I’m a bisexual man in a gay relationship, and I’m approaching 30. I was still a kid when Matthew Shepard’s story was being covered on the news. I remember thinking, “I better keep my mouth shut about these feelings I’m having.”
And then I met Dominic when I was 12, and people could see how in love we were. And we got the shit beat out of us. The year I met him, some kids in the grade above me held me down against the bleachers in our gym and stomped on my hand until my fingers broke. Instead of sending me to the nurse, the teacher sent me to the assistant principal to explain the situation. She asked why the kids had beat me up. I said, “They were calling me gay.”
Her response was, “Well, are you?”
My, “I don’t know,” earned a call to my parents, and I was outed. Efforts were made to keep me from seeing Dom. Throughout high school, Dom’s stepmother intensified these efforts. He slept in the basement of the house. Although he was an incredibly talented student, he was prohibited from participating in any extracurriculars. He suffered a lot of physical abuse during those years.
The day he turned 18, he packed up everything he had and walked to my house, and we’ve lived together ever since. Things are better, but they’re not perfect. I’ve had trucks pull up next to me at stoplights and, seeing the pride sticker on my car, through old drinks and garbage into my window. I no longer speak to my dad’s side of the family. I haven’t been to see them for Christmas or Thanksgiving in years. One of my uncles had cornered me at Thanksgiving when I was 17 and said, “I’m not going to judge you, but I’d be happy to break your neck so God can do the judging a little sooner.”
I joined a support group for trans and intersex people. When I joined, 40 people attended regularly. Within the year, the group was half the size it had been. Some couldn’t make it anymore, because they were staying at the shelter, where their stay hinged on them agreeing to instead to attend homophobic sermons. Some were put in correctional therapy. Five of them died. Three of those, I didn’t know, but I knew Alex, the 19 year old who was fag-dragged in Kentucky and died a day later in the hospital, and I knew Stephanie, who went home to Alabama to care for her mom in hospice and was beaten to death with a baseball bat by her mom’s boyfriend.
Tumblr is not reality. The dynamic here does not reflect the dynamic out there. Here’s the part where I finally make a point, and it might be extremely unpopular - but guys, value your allies. Value each other. We are met with enough hate in our daily lives to enter an online safe-space and meet more hate from our own, over petty things. Don’t go after one another over every little thing you find problematic.
Learn to see nuance. Maybe the word “queer” bothers you, and you see a gay man using it as an umbrella term. Maybe someone called a trans man a trans woman because they’re confused about terminology, but the post where they did it was voicing support for the trans community. Maybe someone is just asking a question, wanting to learn more. Stop. Attacking. These. People.
Allies are being driven away. Members of our own community are being ostracized. Others are feeling nervous and estranged, and it’s largely because of places like Tumblr, where the social justice movement is quickly becoming violent and radical. I am begging you, stop nitpicking “problematic” things and start directing your efforts to create real change. When it comes to comes to your allies, forget the “social justice warrior” mentality and put down your torch. Educate calmly. Be respectful. Be understanding. Be forgiving. And I’m certainly not saying that your anger doesn’t have a good place - when you are met with bigots on the street, congress members who want to pass hateful laws, violent protesters, abusive parents, prejudiced teachers, that is when you need to be a warrior. That’s when it counts. In the real world. When you have the opportunity to protect people from real harm. Attacking your would-be allies via anonymous asks is just going to lose us ground in the long run. And we don’t have time for that, not when trans women of color are being murdered every day, not when states are still fighting against marriage equality, not when there are politicians in office who believe that trans people are possessed by demons, not when we’ve just lost 50 brothers and sisters to one gunman, not when the media won’t even admit that the attack was homophobic.
Please step back. Look at the big picture. Look at where we are, globally. Don’t just log on to your safe space and attack your allies over small missteps. That’s like washing the dishes in a house that’s on fire, kids. Let’s fight on the battlefield, and when we come home to each other, let’s just focus on bandaging up our wounds so we can go out and win the war.
what pokemon youtubers have done to nuzlockes hurts me whenever i think about it for too long. nuzlockes aren't about planning out optimal plays and selectively sacrificing pokemon when need be to make sure everything goes as planned, they're about the emotional devastation when your favorite is ruthlessly murdered in front of your eyes and there's nothing you can do about it and you set out on a path of bloody revenge against the trainer who killed them. i still hate wulfric from x and y for what he did to my swalot all those years ago. some of you never watched marriland play wounded by kevin macleod while solemnly looking at the stats and memories of a dead pokemon before putting them to rest and releasing them as a child and it shows
One thing about me ????? I’m gonna defended k!quackity til the end. Like yeah he has murdered and manipulated some people. Yeah he has done acts of terrorism, BUT HE HAS DONE NOTHING WRONG. HES A SMART MAN AND HE HAS HIS MOTIVES AND I SHALL SUPPORT THEM !!!!
it's independent bookstore day! and incidentally amazon has put on a book sale on the same day, because they're undercutting scum! don't give them any of your money!
support you local bookstore in person, or find one on bookshop.org and buy through them! maybe even consider getting my book through bookshop. it's good!
(sorry wick for making you the strawman)
just came up with a great idea for a novel and then imagined a bunch of amazing concept art for it. so yeah i'd say today has been very productive
LMAOOOOOOO REAL
Our Hextech Dream
Wanting to draw more of a specific oc or share literally anything about him but to do so would spoil a plot point
Talking to people about your characters really is a game changer. You'll start saying things about them you didn't even know you knew.
hobby includes: scrolling through a tumblr ship tag for an unhealthy amount of hours and mindlessly pressing the reblog button
when I try to show something to a friend related to an interest they like but I know nothing about, I feel like a relative giving them this
i'm just a sleepy little guy n u know what?? i need a little kiss
Ancient Gods spoilers without context.
alright fuckers it’s binnie loving hours.
my big binnie boy <33
Always hate and love relation🤞🏻🎀
um what
hey im back lmao just in time for STRANGER THINGS 4?? after 3 years?? anyway ronance canon im maya hawke
My current hyperfixation is hunting you for sport. Knowing my ADHD, I'll be really into it for 2 week to 6ish months then forget. Then it'll come back just as strong at random. So... stay on your toes.