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My country. My home❤️

South Africa!

Sewcialists

Textiles of the world: shweshwe

Modern patterns of Shweshwe from Da Gama Textiles Isishweshwe – the denim of South Africa. Growing up, I always thought of isishweshwe (Zulu

I fw tumblr heavy, cause people be chilling up here.

She must be talking to me.

Spiritual growth doesn’t happen when you are praying or meditating, it happens when you are angry, scared, sad etc and realize that you have a choice to do things differently this time

It's my 2 year anniversary on Tumblr 🥳

@ august please be a little gentle with me I’m so tired

Tumblr is literally my speaker of things!!! I have it in my mind but I can’t utter, because I do not have the right words to say it or describe it rather. I am just always grateful for Tumblr and my tumblr family. ❤️

started calling my goals “scheduled accomplishments” instead - and i feel that a simple rephrasing has changed my mentality towards those goals positively.

Remember this words once you’re in America 🇺🇸.🙇🏽‍♀️🥹

Quotes

My American friends supporting my nail business once I land that side! 🤞🏼

“If you can’t do great things, do small things in a great way.”

— Napoleon Hill

Most def that’s me!

Reblog if your profile pic is actually YOU .

This!!!!

Pretty South African hun 👄😍🇿🇦

Always ⋆ ˚｡⋆୨୧˚

some nice things to do

1. carry a plastic bag and pick up litter that you see 2. pay for the person behind you 3. put a cute anonymous note in a library book 4. send a kind anon ask to someone you’re following 5. tell your friends and family you love them 6. make cookies for your best friend 7. include someone who looks left out in a conversation 8. hug people tightly 9. say “thank you” to someone you appreciate 10. compliment your friend’s talents 11. have a checklist and challenge yourself to tick everything off 12. stand up, stretch, and drink a glass of water every hour 13. start jogging, don’t feel bad if you’re slow 14. wake up early so you have time for both hobbies and studying 15. look at things with your eyes more than you take photos 16. treat yourself how you would treat your best friend 17. learn how to bake a cake 18. give yourself some time alone 19. read a book 20. try a new hairstyle 21. learn a new language 22. look at things and appreciate their poetry and beauty 23. keep a journal for all the moments you want to remember 24. pay more attention to the good things than the bad things 25. have manners and don’t be aggressive or rude 26. if someone is rude, be the bigger person and walk away 27. but sugar-free chewing gum so you don’t have to give in to junk food cravings 28. write down your favourite quotes 29. if it’s raining, share your umbrella with someone who needs it 30. be nice to kids even if you dislike them 31. keep making your art, writing, and photography. keep doing things even if you think you suck 32. keep doing something you’re passionate about even though no one is being supportive 33. stop changing yourself to fit the standards of other people 34. plant a garden of fruits and flowers 35. stop sitting down so much and go out and see the world 36. be strong. don’t let people walk all over you 37. focus on your studying for 30 minutes and give yourself a 10 minute break 38. look at the moon and the stars 39. look at the clouds, sunrise and sunset 40. stop using your phone at dinner 41. have a bubble bath 42. message someone you haven’t talked to for a while 43. let go of toxic people who don’t deserve you 44. don’t be afraid to say that you were wrong 45. keep yourself busy so you stop overthinking so much 46. don’t assume things about someone you don’t know 47. say kind things behind someone’s back 48. be nice to others even if you feel angry, sad or bitter. it’s not their fault 49. remember that your emotions don’t have to rule your actions 50. stop caring so much about what other people might think 51. wear what you want 52. smile at a stranger 53. don’t worry. worrying about the future is useless. it will be a lot less scary than you imagined 54. stop not caring about important things. care about everything and everyone you love with all your heart. 55. stop checking your notifications every 2 minutes 56. don’t play mind games with people 57. make your resting face more happy 58. think happy thoughts even if it feels fake, and you will turn more positive 59. be confident. fake the confidence until you have natural confidence 60. make every morning a new beginning 61. try to understand people rather than be judgemental 62. educate yourself on societal issues 63. stop blaming other people for your own mistakes 64. swear less and don’t call people mean and derogatory terms 65. either learn or be inspired by everything you see 66. constantly find new ways to improve yourself 67. have little goals every day and feel great when you achieve them 68. your comfort zone is nice but don’t stay in it too much. be brave and try something new, even if you fail it’s not a failure 69. tidy your desk 70. watch all the best films 71. stop saying mean things to yourself 72. be happy for no reason 73. say hi to everyone you know 74. don’t dwell on your past 75. keep doing something you’re passionate about even if people criticise you 76. put your alarm away from your bed so you get out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off 77. let your emotions out, either by talking to someone or letting it out creatively 78. google everything you’re curious about 79. use a dictionary for words you don’t know 80. don’t feel sad about all the unanswerable questions 81. be kind to everyone, everything and yourself. 82. spread love and happiness constantly 83. help people who need it 84. don’t be afraid to cry 85. pick yourself up. you don’t need other people to save you 86. if you don’t have anything kind or constructive to say, don’t say it 87. breathe through your stomach, not your chest 88. sleep earlier!! 89. eat more fruits than chocolate 90. be there when your friend is sad, not just when everything is fine 91. make your bed every morning 92. observe everything and pay attention to what’s around you 93. quit any addictions you have 94. give more attention to all the great things 95. learn, accept your past, and move on 96. write things down to remember them 97. be proud of every little victory 98. be proud of who you are 99. remember that you’re loveable, important and worthy of happiness 100. don’t give up. you’re still young and you have a whole life ahead of you.

At some point you realize, you don't need certain things in your life anymore. They have served their purpose. New things are calling you, things that match who you have become. You acknowledge that things have changed, as much as you have, circumstances have turned & you are at a place where you haven't been before. Embrace it. There was never something to fight about, there was just always this invitation to flow with it, as it naturally transforms.

being close to me is a privilege, you can’t replicate my aura

I love my tumblr fam!.❤️ it’s like whatever I’m going through someone other is too and finds it’s easy to put it in words.🥺🫶🏻

Tumblr is such my safe space.

Bored in public? Tumblr.

High? Tumblr.

Going thru some shit? Tumblr.

You are yet to live your dreams and in greatness😇

I love you ma’am 😍❤️

some nice things to do

1. carry a plastic bag and pick up litter that you see 2. pay for the person behind you 3. put a cute anonymous note in a library book 4. send a kind anon ask to someone you’re following 5. tell your friends and family you love them 6. make cookies for your best friend 7. include someone who looks left out in a conversation 8. hug people tightly 9. say “thank you” to someone you appreciate 10. compliment your friend’s talents 11. have a checklist and challenge yourself to tick everything off 12. stand up, stretch, and drink a glass of water every hour 13. start jogging, don’t feel bad if you’re slow 14. wake up early so you have time for both hobbies and studying 15. look at things with your eyes more than you take photos 16. treat yourself how you would treat your best friend 17. learn how to bake a cake 18. give yourself some time alone 19. read a book 20. try a new hairstyle 21. learn a new language 22. look at things and appreciate their poetry and beauty 23. keep a journal for all the moments you want to remember 24. pay more attention to the good things than the bad things 25. have manners and don’t be aggressive or rude 26. if someone is rude, be the bigger person and walk away 27. but sugar-free chewing gum so you don’t have to give in to junk food cravings 28. write down your favourite quotes 29. if it’s raining, share your umbrella with someone who needs it 30. be nice to kids even if you dislike them 31. keep making your art, writing, and photography. keep doing things even if you think you suck 32. keep doing something you’re passionate about even though no one is being supportive 33. stop changing yourself to fit the standards of other people 34. plant a garden of fruits and flowers 35. stop sitting down so much and go out and see the world 36. be strong. don’t let people walk all over you 37. focus on your studying for 30 minutes and give yourself a 10 minute break 38. look at the moon and the stars 39. look at the clouds, sunrise and sunset 40. stop using your phone at dinner 41. have a bubble bath 42. message someone you haven’t talked to for a while 43. let go of toxic people who don’t deserve you 44. don’t be afraid to say that you were wrong 45. keep yourself busy so you stop overthinking so much 46. don’t assume things about someone you don’t know 47. say kind things behind someone’s back 48. be nice to others even if you feel angry, sad or bitter. it’s not their fault 49. remember that your emotions don’t have to rule your actions 50. stop caring so much about what other people might think 51. wear what you want 52. smile at a stranger 53. don’t worry. worrying about the future is useless. it will be a lot less scary than you imagined 54. stop not caring about important things. care about everything and everyone you love with all your heart. 55. stop checking your notifications every 2 minutes 56. don’t play mind games with people 57. make your resting face more happy 58. think happy thoughts even if it feels fake, and you will turn more positive 59. be confident. fake the confidence until you have natural confidence 60. make every morning a new beginning 61. try to understand people rather than be judgemental 62. educate yourself on societal issues 63. stop blaming other people for your own mistakes 64. swear less and don’t call people mean and derogatory terms 65. either learn or be inspired by everything you see 66. constantly find new ways to improve yourself 67. have little goals every day and feel great when you achieve them 68. your comfort zone is nice but don’t stay in it too much. be brave and try something new, even if you fail it’s not a failure 69. tidy your desk 70. watch all the best films 71. stop saying mean things to yourself 72. be happy for no reason 73. say hi to everyone you know 74. don’t dwell on your past 75. keep doing something you’re passionate about even if people criticise you 76. put your alarm away from your bed so you get out of bed as soon as the alarm goes off 77. let your emotions out, either by talking to someone or letting it out creatively 78. google everything you’re curious about 79. use a dictionary for words you don’t know 80. don’t feel sad about all the unanswerable questions 81. be kind to everyone, everything and yourself. 82. spread love and happiness constantly 83. help people who need it 84. don’t be afraid to cry 85. pick yourself up. you don’t need other people to save you 86. if you don’t have anything kind or constructive to say, don’t say it 87. breathe through your stomach, not your chest 88. sleep earlier!! 89. eat more fruits than chocolate 90. be there when your friend is sad, not just when everything is fine 91. make your bed every morning 92. observe everything and pay attention to what’s around you 93. quit any addictions you have 94. give more attention to all the great things 95. learn, accept your past, and move on 96. write things down to remember them 97. be proud of every little victory 98. be proud of who you are 99. remember that you’re loveable, important and worthy of happiness 100. don’t give up. you’re still young and you have a whole life ahead of you.

This!!!

people think they want someone like you, but they’re just infatuated with the idea of you. they haven’t even been preparing themselves to experience someone like you.

that’s how they fumble you.

Build yourself a sustainable routine for 2024

you don’t have to schedule all your habits for everyday. Some habits can be for twice a week or thrice a week. If you can’t read 10 pages everyday, don’t fret. Try to read 1 chapter a week. Then slowly progress to 2.

do not be intimidated by accounts like mine. I post a lot of tips but I follow only the ones I know work for me, even if those tips are great. I share a lot so that different people can make use of them. Just because tip A works better for me than tip B, doesn’t mean that tip B is useless. Someone else could find B more useful than A.

How do you know you’re building a sustainable routine?

here are some indicators:

⭐️ the habits are “portable” for the most part - you do not need to be in specific places to execute them (you can read anywhere, you can workout in any hotel, etc).

⭐️ you’re able to follow all your habits at least 80% of the time in a month. Which means out of 30 days, for 24 days you are able to follow your habits. ⭐️ they don’t stress you out. It doesn’t make sense to procrastinate over your habits. The point of the habits is to reduce procrastination and improve yourself. If you’re stressing over it, go back to square one and start small.

⭐️ you are able to see that you’re improving. Maybe you’re feeling more confident, self assured and resilient. Whatever your end goal, it is important to understand that you won’t go from being, for example, under confident to confident overnight. It will happen gradually. Noticing your progress and complimenting yourself for the gradual change is important because then you’re validating yourself for the healthy changes you make. When you validate yourself as opposed to someone else validating you, you are acknowledging the hard work you have put in- this increases your motivation to do even better and to stay disciplined.

⭐️ over time, the habits come to you naturally. Let’s say meditating. You become so used to meditating that not doing it is like not brushing your teeth in the morning. It becomes a part of you and you accept and embrace it instead of dreading it.

⭐️ yes, you will have tough days. You will have days where you want to give up. It is important to schedule at least 2 mental health days a month for yourself where you can choose to do absolutely nothing and just relax. You are human, not a machine. Sometimes you need to push through those tough days and get things done anyway. There is a balance between resting and working hard.

⭐️ you eventually do not feel guilt or shame for prioritising yourself and your routine first. This is the most important indicator. You do not put any boy, friend, anyone (unless it’s an emergency of course) above you. You know you are your most important person.

Sent over by my mentor

How To Become A Brand New Person ✨✨

Self Reflect:

Journal daily.

Think about past decisions and how they impacted your life.

Meditate regularly.

Create a vision board to visualize your goals.

Review your strengths and weaknesses.

Identify your core values and beliefs.

Figure out your passions and interests.

Think about your childhood dreams and aspirations.

Evaluate your current state of happiness and fulfillment.

Set Clear Goals:

Define specific career goals, like "Get promoted within two years."

Set health goals, like "Lose 20 pounds in six months."

Create financial goals such as "Save $10,000 for a vacation."

Establish personal development goals, like "Read 24 books in a year."

Set relationship goals, such as "Improve communication with my partner."

Define education goals, like "Complete a master's degree in three years."

Set travel goals, like "Visit five new countries in the next two years."

Create hobbies and interests goals, such as "Learn to play a musical instrument."

Set community or volunteer goals, like "Volunteer 100 hours this year."

Establish mindfulness or self-care goals, such as "Practice meditation daily."

Self Care:

Exercise for at least 30 minutes a day.

Follow a balanced diet with plenty of fruits and vegetables.

Prioritize getting 7-9 hours of quality sleep each night.

Practice in relaxation techniques like deep breathing or yoga.

Take regular breaks at work to avoid burnout.

Schedule "me time" for activities you enjoy.

Limit exposure to stressors and toxic people.

Practice regular skincare and grooming routines.

Seek regular medical check-ups and screenings.

Stay hydrated by drinking enough water daily.

Personal Development:

Read a book every month from various genres.

Attend workshops or seminars on topics of interest.

Learn a new language or musical instrument.

Take online courses to acquire new skills.

Set aside time for daily reflection and self improvement.

Seek a mentor in your field for guidance.

Attend conferences and networking events.

Start a side project or hobby to expand your abilities.

Practice public speaking or communication skills.

Do creative activities like painting, writing, or photography.

Create a Support System:

Build a close knit group of friends who uplift and inspire you.

Join clubs or organizations aligned with your interests.

Connect with a mentor or life coach.

Attend family gatherings to maintain bonds.

Be open and honest in your communication with loved ones.

Seek advice from trusted colleagues or supervisors.

Attend support groups for specific challenges (e.g., addiction recovery).

Cultivate online connections through social media.

Find a therapist or counselor for emotional support.

Participate in community or volunteer activities to meet like minded people.

Change Habits:

Cut back on sugary or processed foods.

Reduce screen time and increase physical activity.

Practice gratitude by keeping a daily journal.

Manage stress through mindfulness meditation.

Limit procrastination by setting specific deadlines.

Reduce negative self-talk by practicing self-compassion.

Establish a regular exercise routine.

Create a budget and stick to it.

Develop a morning and evening routine for consistency.

Overcome Fear and Self Doubt:

Face a specific fear head-on (example: public speaking).

Challenge your negative thoughts with positive affirmations.

Seek therapy to address underlying fears or traumas.

Take small, calculated risks to build confidence.

Visualize success in challenging situations.

Surround yourself with supportive and encouraging people.

Journal about your fears and doubts to gain clarity.

Celebrate your accomplishments, no matter how small.

Focus on your strengths and accomplishments.

Embrace failure as a valuable learning experience.

Embrace Change:

Relocate to a new city or country.

Switch careers or industries to pursue your passion.

Take on leadership roles in your workplace.

Volunteer for projects outside your comfort zone.

Embrace new technologies and digital tools.

Travel to unfamiliar destinations.

Start a new hobby or creative endeavor.

Change your daily routine to add variety.

Adjust your mindset to see change as an opportunity.

Seek out diverse perspectives and viewpoints.

Practice Gratitude:

Write down three things you're grateful for each day.

Express gratitude to loved ones regularly.

Create a gratitude jar and add notes of appreciation.

Reflect on the positive aspects of challenging situations.

Show gratitude by volunteering or helping others in need.

Send thank-you notes or messages to people who've helped you.

Keep a gratitude journal and review it regularly.

Share your gratitude openly during family meals or gatherings.

Focus on the present moment and appreciate the little things.

Practice gratitude even in times of adversity.

Be Patient:

Set realistic expectations for your progress.

Accept that personal growth takes time.

Focus on the journey rather than the destination.

Learn from setbacks and view them as opportunities to improve.

Celebrate small milestones along the way.

Practice self-compassion during challenging times.

Stay committed to your goals, even when progress is slow.

Keep a journal to track your personal growth.

Recognize that patience is a valuable skill in personal transformation.

Celebrate Small Wins:

Treat yourself to your favorite meal or dessert.

Reward yourself with a spa day or self-care activity.

Share your achievements with friends and loved ones.

Create a vision board to visualize your successes.

Acknowledge and congratulate yourself in a journal.

Give yourself permission to take a break and relax.

Display reminders of your accomplishments in your workspace.

Take a day off to celebrate a major milestone.

Host a small gathering to mark your achievements.

Set aside time to reflect on how far you've come.

Maintain Balance:

Set clear boundaries in your personal and work life.

Prioritize self care activities in your daily routine.

Schedule regular breaks and downtime.

Learn to say "no" when necessary to avoid overcommitment.

Evaluate your work life balance regularly.

Seek support from friends and family to avoid burnout.

Be kind to yourself and accept imperfections.

Practice mindfulness to stay present and grounded.

Revisit your priorities and adjust them as needed.

Embrace self love and self acceptance as part of your daily life.

Cognitive Techniques To Change Your Thoughts ✨✨

Cognitive techniques are strategies used in cognitive therapy to help you identify and change negative thoughts and beliefs. These techniques should be practiced regularly so that they become habits.

Cognitive Restructuring: This involves identifying and challenging negative or irrational thoughts and replacing them with more positive or rational beliefs.

Thought Stopping: When you notice a negative thought entering your mind, you can mentally shout "Stop!" This interrupts the thought process and gives you a chance to replace the negative thought with a positive one.

Mindfulness and Meditation: These practices help you become more aware of your thoughts and feelings in the present moment. When you observe your thoughts without judgment, you gain insight into negative patterns and choose to let them go.

Journaling: Writing down your thoughts can help you process and analyze them. With time you can identify patterns and work on changing negative thought cycles.

Positive Affirmations: Repeating positive statements can help counteract negative self talk and reinforce positive beliefs about yourself.

Evidence Collection: When faced with a negative belief, ask yourself, "What evidence do I have that supports or refutes this thought?" This can help you see things in a more balanced way.

Decatastrophizing: If you tend to imagine the worst scenario, ask yourself how likely it is to happen and what other possible outcomes there might be. This can help you view situations more realistically.

Labeling: Instead of saying "I am a failure," label the thought as "a negative thought about my abilities."

Distraction: Engaging in an activity or hobby can divert your attention from negative thoughts and give your mind a break.

Scheduling Worry Time: Instead of ruminating on worries throughout the day, set aside a specific time to process them. This can prevent constant worry and allow you to focus on other tasks.

Challenging Cognitive Distortions: Recognize and challenge cognitive distortions like black-and-white thinking, overgeneralization, and personalization.

Visual Imagery: Visualize a place or situation where you feel calm and happy. This can help shift your focus from negative thoughts.

These are very simple descriptions and examples of cognitive techniques. I listed the ones we can put into practice on our own. There are more in depth methods and practices used by doctors on different fields of study and practice. I can list, as well as add upon the information listed here.

10 tips for casual elegance ⋆｡𖦹 °✩

Reading. Reading. Reading. Being well-read is so valuable!! Get cosy, pick up a Jane Austen, Emily Brontë, or maybe a Charles Dickens and spend some of your free time indulging in literature. <3

Soft-spoken and kind expressions. No one likes being around rude people. Being a bitch doesn’t make you look confident. Instead, be kind, make conversation, pay attention, engage, etc… trust me.

Dainty jewellery. Find some high-quality signature pieces.

Think before you speak. Take a moment to reflect on your thoughts so you can speak confidently and with intent without stumbling over your words!! <3 

Quality over quantity. Stop buying large amounts of cheap clothing; instead, save up and invest in higher-quality pieces that will actually last you. :)

Practice your handwriting. Having pretty and neat handwriting is a lovely little detail; extra points if you write in cursive. ;)

Drop the slang words. Bro, cap, sus, drip, rizz, mid… just stop, please.

Keep to yourself. Small circle, no bragging, gossips only with the closest, keep your plans to yourself.

Watch your posture. Straighten that back, honey. I see you. :))

Manicured nails. I do mine every two weeks. Almond-shaped, always dark red. <3

As always, Please feel free to add your own suggestions and tips in the comments!! ♡ ₊ ⊹

✩‧₊*:・love ya ･:*₊‧✩