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creative journal prompts/ideas ⋆✴︎˚｡⋆
hi angels! i honestly love to write and really reflect through my journal but sometimes an emotionally charged journal sesh requires a bit more energy than i have. but i know journalling always makes me feel so much better so here are some cute prompts or ideas for those lower energy, more creative days where writing doesn’t quite feel like enough.
list of your favourite things (for example artists, musicians, writers, flowers)
lyrics that feel relevant in the moment
your ‘fig tree’
a kiss from every time you’ve worn lipstick
an about you page
tea bags saved from every tea you’ve tried recently - maybe with a review also!
pressed flowers
a collage page with a theme
you right now
recipes you’ve found or want to try
doodles of what’s in your bag
weekly positives
‘junk’ pages full of any odd pieces of paper you save or think are interesting
quotes that feel important
comfort films
ideal partner
words to use more
a mini gallery (print outs of any of your favourite pieces of art)
your wish list
special poems
current obsessions/fixations
brain dumps on intriguing topics
old photos
your to be read list
things on your mind recently
your dream home
thank you for reading angels! have fun journalling and getting creative. there’s a quote by emily dickinson that’s always struck me, ‘i am out with lanterns looking for myself’. to me this quote is really reminiscent of when i journal, im attempting to piece my self together slowly. id really love to hear how journalling feels to you! love, m.
this is your 2025.
cultivate a life where you give 100% and receive 100%. plan out your days the night before, tick off your to-do list as you complete it and then watch it happen. nothing happens without the work.
˚∘✵catch yourself before you fall✵˚∘
you guys say you stand firm, but do you really?
For those of you going through tough circumstances, I know how you feel, I know how it gets. And I know you just want everything to happen now. And you’re not going to like this because I know you’ve heard this a gabillion times but: it’s already happened. Stop doing things in order to receive, there’s nothing to receive, your desires are never coming because they are already here. Your dream life isn’t going to come to you, because it is already here. And you must stand firm in that.
And you guys say you do but, do you really? Because I know for a fact that you wouldn’t be struggling if that was true. You “sAtUrAtE yOuR mInD” for 30 minutes and then when something in the 3d gets you down you go against yourself. A routine doesn’t count for shit if as soon as circumstances arise you go back to hating life. And of course you’re allowed to have emotions, after all, this isn’t law of attraction and this certainly isn’t shiftok 💀.
HOWEVER, everytime circumstances get you down you must catch yourself before you fall. catch yourself before you go back into that rabbit hole of self hatred, catch yourself before you plummet into the hell that is your old story.
You can do ANYTHING, seriously, everything, anything, you are SO powerful and you should be SO excited. Excluding intrusive thoughts, everything you speak into existence will happen because you’re a god. simple. All you have to do is stand firm in that belief.
When circumstances hit, close your eyes and tell yourself:
“i’m catching myself before i fall, this isn’t my life anymore”
It can be so hard not to waver, especially when circumstances can be so in your face and apparent. And it can be so comforting to complain about circumstances because many people in this community have had to deal with hard times and misery loves company. But you don’t have to join the club. You don’t have to go back to the old story, save yourself catch yourself and remind yourself of what’s true.
You’ve induced pure consciousness already and have everything you could ever dream of. You’ve already shifted. You’ve already manifested. That’s your reality now, and you must catch yourself the second you feel you’re falling out of that loop. When circumstances hit you, take a deep breath and decide you’re going to save yourself, decide you’re going to catch yourself.
So scroll past that “here’s why you haven’t shifted/ induced pure consciousness already” post because you have. You aren’t a failure anymore, remind yourself of that.
Scroll past that post calling you a loser because you haven’t manifested anything. it doesn’t apply to you anymore. Remind yourself that you get everything you want.
When you feel lonely, remind yourself that you have the friends and family you’ve always desired.
When you feel your negative self image creeping into your mind, remind yourself you have that gorgeous body you want. That pretty face. That fat ass bank account.
When you feel down, remind yourself that you have that life you’ve always wanted, and that it’s not just some distant dream, it’s reality.
When it feels like you just wanna go back to feeling sorry for yourself, catch yourself. Save yourself, you are the ruler of your reality you don’t have to be subjected to that anymore.
That isn’t your life anymore, it’s nothing but an old, dead story, and it has nothing to do with you. Idc how much circumstances try and push you, don’t budge, ever.
You can choose to save yourself, I believe in you and always will.
🔮🌞 choose to save yourself instead of wallowing in self pity
The 4D is the only real reality.
The 3D Is a copycat. A COPY.
If you have it in reality (4D) then you have it. And therefore it'll be copied into the sub-reality (3D).
Reminders for myself and y'all.
I wish you all amazing holidays!!!
please manifest “unrealistic” things.
please manifest “impossible” things.
please manifest “illogical” things.
please manifest things you want to manifest just because you want to.
please manifest no longer having anxiety.
please manifest no longer having depression.
please manifest that bad thing never happening.
please manifest because you want to manifest.
please manifest being happy because you deserve it.
✰ YOU’RE INDUCING FOR CERTAIN, RIGHT? ✰
a lot of you subconsciously doubt yourself, let’s talk about it
stop with the “just incase”, just stop. “I’ll save this post to read just incase i don’t induce the void.”
“I’ll do this tomorrow just incase I fail.”
“Another day in my shitty reality after an unsuccessful night, I hope this is my last day here” (how many times have you said that, may i ask?)
“Just incase I’m not doing right, i’ll check some more posts.”
how many times have you gone through this cycle, waking up after an unsuccessful night hoping it’s your last in the shitty life you live, doomscrolling hoping it clicks for you with each paragraph you read and then “attempting” to “enter”. And when you “fail” to induce, you go back around this cycle.
Inducing pure consciousness doesn’t require a day of “good self concept” or affirming till your brain is mush. However, it helps to have a mindset of knowing, that this IS your last day here in this shitty reality. Knowing that you aren’t going to try you’re going to do. Knowing that there is no “what if i don’t make it” or “just incase i fail” because failure doesn’t exist for you. Being firm instead of wondering if it’s going to work can help a lot.
There is no trial and error for you, stop going into this inducing process “hoping” you’ll do it. Seeing “if” it will work tonight. There is no “if”, “maybe” or “just in case”. There is no attempt and fail for the operant power, there is no trial and error for a god. You just be and you just do. Idc how long you’ve spent in this community there is no week, month or even year long process of trying and failing, because it’s not needed, this isn’t some developmental arc, it’s instant.
You must know that you are inducing for certain. This wavering relationship isn’t helping
There’s no “i’ll try tonight”, if you have decided that tonight is the night then it is, if you have decided you will use this day to shift consciousness then you will. there is no “just incase i don’t” nope, not a thing when you’re a god.
so kill that thought of trying, as soon as you found out about the law you found that you control everything, so why are you trying, attempting, hoping for something in a reality where you control everything, where you can just do? it’s almost as if you think whether you induce the void or not is based on external factors, because if you knew it was you who holds the power you wouldn’t be trying, you would just decide that inducing is simply something you can do.
and i feel like this is a reason a lot of you procrastinate, you’re holding off failure so you don’t let yourself down, but why would you fail if you know it’s you who owns all the power in this reality and it’s riding on you to induce. why would you fail if it all rests in your hands.
you do know it’s you, right? you’re inducing for certain, right? a lot of you need to reevaluate what you actually know about pure consciousness because this “trying” and “failing” to induce wouldn’t exist in your reality if you understood
you can’t try at something when you call the shots
🐬🦩STOP SETTING YOURSELF UP FOR FAILURE AND ACTUALLY APPLY YOUR BELIEF 💋
How to have your ultimate self care night!
After a long harsh day, where maybe you felt a range of emotions- and maybe some of them were negative, the best thing you can do is return to yourself. Take comfort in yourself, soothe yourself, show up for yourself. Be your own best friend.
First of all, a self care night means actually giving yourself love. Actually taking the time to do what makes you happy and loved and appreciated. People often think that to feel loved and appreciated you need other people to make you feel that way??? That’s so wrong! Why would you put how you feel and your emotions in the hands of others when you could so easily give it to yourself?
So get the space all cozy and comfy with blankets and pillows because this night is the YOU night!
So the number one step to making you feel loved on your self care night is to learn your love languages and try to add in something for each love language. The 5 main love languages:
Physical touch
Words of affirmation
Acts of service
Quality time
Gift giving
Here’s a list of things you can do to give yourself love in each way:
Movies/shows you can watch:
Wizards of Oz
Gilmore girls
Bridgerton
Legally blonde
Mamma Mia
Any old Disney movies <3
Barbie!
Food & drinks:
Freshly baked cookies
Mini cake
Hot chocolate
Tea & biscuit
Ice cream
Self loving activities you can so by yourself!
Make sure to look at the list above for the love languages and do one from your top love language! Here are some more ideas to spend time with yourself and have a great time.
Journal
Paint rocks / canvas/ water color
Draw/ sketch your dream dresses
Read
Everything shower
Face mask!
Yoga
Paint your nails
Write a love letter to yourself
Braid your hair
Watch the sunset
DANCE! Some songs that are so danceable that you WILL get up and dance: 22, like a girl (old song😭😂) freak the freak out, dance the night (Barbie ofc)
Hope this helped you with your epic self care night and to also realise that you don’t need others to have an amazing time!
I am on the Pedestal Rampage
I am the most amazing and beautiful girl in the world, everywhere I go I can feel people admiring me. There is quite literally nobody that can amount to me. There is nothing that can replace me, I am irreplaceable. I am on the pedestal, I am perfect, I am a goddess. I am more than worthy of everything I want. I am more than worthy of genuine love. I am more than worthy of everything.
I am a goddess, I bring light into everyones life. I am absolutely perfect, everyone either wants to be me or be in me. Quite literally everyone admires me and my beauty. Quite literally everyone admires me and my personality. Quite literally everyone loves me. I am unforgettable, I leave an impression on everyone. Nobody can forget about me. Everyone is always thinking about how perfect and amazing I am. Everyone is always thinking about how they want to be me. I am quite literally the most amazing girl in the world. I am quite literally perfect. I am quite literally the girl every man wants. I am the girl that gets everything she wants.
I am quite literally on the pedestal, I am quite literally the prize, I am quite literally the one everyone wants.
Nothing Is Hard. Nothing Is Difficult. It’s Just Done.
Reread the phrase over again with me. Nothing is hard. Nothing is difficult. It’s just done.
If you know that to be true now, congratulations. You are a master manifestor!!!
If you don’t know this to be true now, congratulations. You are also a master manifestor!!!
If you don’t know anything at all and just decide to go with the flow of life, congratulations. You are a master manifestor.
The words on this post are already written out and complete but only because you are assuming right now that you have more words to read. That is how simple manifesting is. It is simply based on your idea of it. Manifestation is simply your perception of it. Nothing happens outside of your awareness so if you decide manifesting is easy for you, it is. If you decide manifesting is hard for you, surprise surprise!
That’s why when people want to tell you manifesting is not real or it’s a cult, you don’t need to argue with them because they are right. In their world, manifesting is cultish so everything they see will prove that right to them.
The great Hannah Montana said it so beautifully not long ago. “Life’s what you make it.”
Nothing about manifesting is hard. Nothing about manifesting is difficult. If you refuse to accept that, congratulations. If you know this to be true, congratulations.
You are now and have already always been a master manifestor. Stop thinking otherwise.
𝟏𝟏:𝟏𝟏 Trust in yourself and in God/Universe. You are on the right path. Everything is working out in your favor! 𝟏𝟏:𝟏𝟏 ✮⋆˙𖦹๋࣭⭑𖹭
my own muse & role model.
Unpopular opinion: there is no difference between affirming to get and affirming to remind. Your subconscious is never going “are you affirming to get? DONT GIVE THIS BITCH HER DESIRES” your subconscious is going to take those affirmations and make it your reality
December reset for 2025✨
Create a vision board for the upcoming year
Set your word or theme for the new year
Update or create a financial plan/budget for the next year
Organize digital files & pictures
Plan a new daily or weekly routine
Write a gratitude list for the past year
Think about lessons learned & how they shaped you
Set intentions for health & wellness
Refresh your living space with a new layout or decor
Treat yourself to a self care day (spa, bath, meditation)
Figure out which relationships to nurture and those to release
Write a letter to your future self for the end of next year
Create a reading or learning list for personal growth
Plan experiences or trips you want to prioritize
Celebrate your progress, big or small, from the past year
Unsubscribe from unnecessary emails or services
Practice forgiveness for yourself & others
Set aside time to reconnect with loved ones
Start a new journal for the upcoming year with clear intentions
A soft life requires HARD WORK!!!!
You should pamper and take care of yourselves. HOWEVER, You need more than a pretty face these days y'all to get ahead in life. You see women who are in business, law, and Healthcare. They had to bust their behinds to get where they are now. Endless nights staying up to studying, not worried about men 24/7, dreaming about what will be on the other side to motivate themselves. Some of y'all want to be babied. Yes, not every woman thinks the same and wants to be a rich housewife. How do you think women become rich housewives? Networking, Education, volunteering, Hobbies, etc.
Some of these girlies on tumblr are selling a fantasy and I'll let them have it but this is not a Wattpad fanfiction. WAKE UP and get up and do something!!!
HOW TO GET OUT OF A READING SLUMP
Inspired by how I'm currently trying to read again.
START SHORTER. Try to read something manageable for you, and it doesn’t have to even be a full novel. It could be an essay on something that interests you or any short stories you find. Get into the habit of reading at your own pace, till you feel ready to take on something bigger.
SET REALISTIC GOALS. Instead of wanting a goal like completing a book within a week, I would say 20 minutes of reading per day or at least 2 hours per week. You don’t have to track the time when you’re reading, but make mental notes of when you start reading and how long you read.
EXPLORE. You may even be tired of reading certain genres, and not notice it. While in a slump, I would explore different books and see what interests me the most. For example, if you love reading romance books, try some action ones instead(or vice versa.)
REREAD FAVES. The familiarity of some books can help us get back into the swing of reading. Every time I reread a book, I always pick up on new details that I didn’t notice before. Reread one of your favourite books and try to spot details that you didn’t spot before.
MAKE A LIST. Create a list of all the books that you want to read or reread. I feel like the process of seeing all the books you could, really encourages you to pick up that book.
TRY A DIFFERENT FORMAT. For a lot of us, reading paperback or hard copy is the way to go. However, when I’m in a slump, I feel like opting for a different format helps me to get back into reading. For example, a digital book, or an e-book. (or vice versa)
READ IN A DIFFERENT ENVIRONMENT. I love LOVE, reading in an actual library. It is not for everyone, but a change of scenery can help. Some ideas can be at a park, a cafe, beaches and or a nature trail.
PAIR READING WITH ANOTHER ACTIVITY. Some examples are exercising, cooking, travelling/commuting or doing mindfulness activities. This is more for getting back into the habit, once you’ve got it again, I would say to focus only on reading.
Start planning 2025
Make a list of all the emotions you want to feel at the end of 2025.
Now work backwards and write down all the tasks you need to do in order to feel that way.
Make a separate list of all the “gaps” - what do you currently not have in order to do those tasks to make you feel the way you want?
And lastly, write down how you can fill those gaps. Do you need a gym membership to become fit to feel good about your yourself? Do you need to learn how to cook better meals in order to feel healthy and energised? Do you need to start applying to jobs, in order to secure one, in order to feel financially safe? Do you need to buy an old school alarm clock that’s going to wake up your entire apartment building in order to wake up early? what do you need to DO?
also, make a list of all the things that worked out for you in 2024. Learn to celebrate and appreciate, even the smallest of wins.
For the next two months start the trial and error process of this program. Let’s say you decide that you want to work out 7 days a week in order to feel good about your body. Now halfway through November you realise that 7 days is probably too much, and 5 days would be better for your schedule. Or you decide to read 3 books a week, but realistically, maybe a chapter a day is better.
November and December are your trial months. By the time January starts, be ready with a program that is built for you, works for you, and can be completed by you.
Don’t forget about keeping a reward mechanism. If you complete your daily tasks for 1 month straight, buy that little purse you were eyeing, or take yourself to a spa. Reward yourself in ways you like so that :
a) you’re not in an endless cycle of never being satisfied
b) you don’t drop everything for a man or a friend who shows you the slightest bit of affection because you won’t show it to yourself
c) it encourages you to work harder for yourself.
december workout plan
day 1: 30 minute cardio + 10 minute yoga
day 2: 30 minute dumbbell cardio + 8 minute stretch
day 3: 30 minute lower body + 15 minute leg stretch
day 4: 30 minute arms & abs + 10 minute yoga
day 5: 44 minute metabolic conditioning
day 6: 10 minute abs + 30 minute yoga
day 7: 30 minute hiit w/ weights + 15 minute stretch
day 8: rest day OR 30 minute walking cardio + 8 minute stretch
day 9: 36 minute strength & cardio + 15 minute stretch
day 10: 30 minute lower body + 15 minute leg stretch
day 11: 5 minute warm up + 30 minute upper body & core + 8 minute stretch
day 12: 38 minute metabolic conditioning
day 13: 17 minute abs + 30 minute stretch
day 14: 25 minute dumbbell hiit
day 15: rest day OR 20 minute cardio + 15 minute stretch
day 16: 30 minute tabata hiit & strength
day 17: 30 minute lower body
day 18: 40 minute upper body & core
day 19: 30 minute metabolic conditioning
day 20: 20 minute abs + 26 minute yoga
day 21: 32 minute hiit & strength
day 22: rest day OR 30 minute cardio + stretch
day 23: 5 minute warm up + 45 minute strength & cardio + 8 minute stretch
day 24: 43 minute lower body
day 25: rest day (merry christmas!)
day 26: 20 minute pilates cardio & abs
day 27: 30 minute upper body
day 28: 17 minute abs + 30 minute yoga
day 29: 5 minute warm up + 30 minute dumbbell hiit + 8 minute stretch
day 30: 45 minute walking cardio + 10 minute abs + 8 minute stretch
day 31: rest day OR 30 minute mobility
thoughts on shifting + manifesting with ease. (as someone who's shifted many times, alongside manifesting)
coming back to this side of tumblr after spending years away from it has made me realized how many of you are truly the problem, it might sound kinda harsh but really. so many of you ask the same questions over and over again.. "but HOW do i do it?" "how do i shift" "how do i manifest" JUST DO IT. stop looking for signs, stop looking for methods or "cheat codes". just do it man.
your mind is so powerful and it actually kinda irritates me how many of you doubt it, just because it "seems to easy". you don't understand how you've been manipulated by society to not see your power. how have you been on loa social media, shifting social media, for soooo long — yet still don't see it?? let me tell you..
the moment i got off social media, the moment i took time to erase everything in my head and stop overthinking everything, was the moment everything came to me. i already had it, i just needed to stop telling myself i didn't.
it took me barely any time to get used to convincing myself i had everything i wanted, i shifted to my desired realities, and everything worked out in my favour. AFFIRMING IS ALL YOU NEED. I AM YELLING AT YOU. JUST AFFIRM.
really, please, affirm. the routine is so simple.
1. any bad thought is instantly turned positive.
ex: "i really want her waist"
to
"am i stupid ... i have her waist.. tbh mine even looks a little better.. am i crazy?? like actually? this must be a glitch or something cause my waist is practically identical to hers.. i literally love my waist"
exaggerate, say what you need to say to erase the negativity.
2. it's yours, so act like it..
ex: talk about ur DR normally. it's your reality, not a fantasy land you made up in a dream. ITS REAL. it's a reality. for example, i'd watch videos of my s/o in this reality, and speak about our lives in my dr. "i can't wait to see __ tonight... god i love __, it's so nice hanging out with them everyday.. wow they look so pretty in this video — i'm so lucky their mine". it's natural, they're yours aren't they? exactly, so act like it.. this is used the exact same way when manifesting..
you see someone with something you want? thinking of something you wanna do? something you wanna be? ... it's urs... so can you act like it?? like whyre u feeling sad someone else got a job promotion 😹😹 you literally got a better one ...
3. that's literally it
you don't need a fancy method (although it can give u some peace of mind.. let's be real, a lot of methods set y'all back and make you overwhelmed, blocking ur beliefs and making everything seem harder). you literally just need to live. tell yourself it's done, over and over again. nothing matters. it's done, it's yours, you have it, you're happy and fulfilled. other peoples sucess should really mean nothing to you negatively. it shouldn't make you stressed, shouldn't make you feel behind.. why would it when you have everything, you can do everything, go anywhere, and you can be anything.
it'll seem like manifesting blogs and shifting blogs just repeat the same things.. which is true, they do, because i'm telling you there's nothing more to it than what you've already read. it is that easy. all it takes is your mind. decide, and tell yourself.
as i said before, it took me barely anytime to switch my mindset once i actually started focusing on myself, my journey and not every body else's results. repeating stuff to yourself WORKS. repeating is literally ALL i did. choose what i want, told myself it's mine in any way i could describe it. and there, it's mine. ive shifted to many different realities, along side gaining a better life in this one after years of convincing myself there was nothing for me. if i can break out of the cycle, trust me you can too. i cannot describe how desperate i was at the beginning, how long i took in false info and wasted time on methods all while doubting every single thing.
so why don't you believe it? you'll sit there and tell yourself over and over again that you're ugly, or broke, or friendless... but you won't tell urself that you've shifted? that you have your dream body...? girl okay i guess....
once you realize nothing besides your mind truly matters, is when you'll be free with yourself. circumstances don't matter, past feelings don't matter, doubts don't matter, your mind is all you need.
yes this is just loa explained longer, that's the point of the post because some of u still can't get it in ur heads
Dream face and body rampage
My face and body are absolute perfection. Every detail of my face is flawlessly sculpted to be breathtakingly beautiful. My skin is smooth, radiant, and glowing. My eyes are, captivating, with an absolutely perfect shape. My lips are full and perfectly shaped, complementing my features. Every inch of my face is absolutely mesmerizing, and people can’t help but admire me wherever I go. My face is unforgettable, and everyone is in awe of how beautiful I am.
My body is a work of art. It’s exactly how I want it. Every curve is perfectly placed, and my proportions are flawless. I feel incredible in my body, and it’s impossible not to notice how stunning I look. I feel like I could conquer anything with my dream body because it’s exactly what I’ve always wanted. Every part of me is symmetrical and balanced, creating the most visually pleasing figure.
I’m the girl everyone wants to look like, the one who stands out in any crowd. My beauty is undeniable, and people are constantly drawn to me because of how perfect I look. Whether it’s my flawless face, my perfectly sculpted body, or my radiant energy, I’m the complete package. I can feel the admiration in the air, and I know that I am the ideal of beauty. Every time I look in the mirror, I see the dream version of myself. My features are exactly how I want them, and I feel amazing in my skin. I know I’m the standard of beauty, and I have everything I’ve always dreamed of. My body and face are exactly what I deserve, and I own them. I am stunning, and no one can compare to me. Everyone admires my beauty, and I’m impossible to forget.
hobbies to try out ♡
hobbies are such a great way to spend your time rather than being on technology all the time. It's great to have a skill, as skills can help you make friends, and can also open up new job opportunities!! here are some ideas, some are easy and simple and others are a little more advanced, there's (hopefully) something for everyone !!
O1 , painting / sketching
O2 , ballet (or dance in general)
O3 , sewing
O4 , reading
O5 , journalling
O6 , gardening
O7 , baking
O8 , photography
O9 , creative writing / songwriting / poem writing
1O , yoga
11 , learning an instrument (electric/acoustic guitar, drums, piano, violin etc)
12 , bracelet/jewellery making
13 , thrifting
14 , skateboarding
15 , hiking / exploring
16 , calligraphy
17 , pottery
18 , knitting / crochet
19 , pilates
2O , learning a language
21 , origami
22 , archery
23 , bird watching , herping , and animal/bug study in general
24 , mycology , plant observation/documentation
25 , start a podcast or amateur radio
26 , roller skating
27 , gymnastics / acrobatics
28 , cardistry
29 , terrarium making
30 , calisthenics
hope this helps!!!
I welcome happiness in december!
I welcome prosperity in december!
I welcome opportunities in december!
I welcome love in december!
I welcome peace in december!
I welcome success in december!
I welcome abundance in december!
Exercise. Avoid drama, embarrassments & toxic people. Look amazing. Get smarter. Embrace peace. Eat clean. Make a ton of money. Level up your circle. Stay pure. Be untouchable. Talk less. Be magnetic & intuitive. Pray more. Think highly of yourself. Be the most precious creature on earth, protected by God.
How to deal with disrespect
Unfortunately there are people lately who are very rude and disrespectful to others. Understand that these people don't feel good about themselves and that's why they treat others that way. Don't take it personally, don't let it affect you because you are worth more and have compassion for other people. When I have been disrespected I respond calmly and kindly and that really makes the person who said something mean to you respond in a totally different way! seriously, try it. We think we have to respond badly to the other person, but on the contrary, if you respond kindly they don't expect it so they don't know how to react, and they will probably be calmer and respond more calmly.